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TY

Thank you for the advice.

Re: TY

  • zsazsa-stlzsazsa-stl member
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    edited December 2011
    How old are the sisters?  How long have you been dating their brother?
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  • DG1DG1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Sounds like your fiance is doing what he needs to do, which means you just ignore them and move on.



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  • edited December 2011
    Hold your ground, girl.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_fiances-female-siblings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:89eef64f-598c-49e3-bed0-8d1289a662d5Post:45e6850f-2085-4abc-9ded-38cfefbaa8ac">Fiance's Female Siblings...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have a great fiance.  Everything about him is wonderful other than his two sisters. The older sister, has never made any effort to speak to me when I'm in the same room as her, be friendly towards me, or make any effort by any means...Generally her behavior is much like her personality. The younger sister is friendly and has made attempts to get together, not frequently, but I will give her credit. The thing about them is, is that they are still very close to my fiance's ex-girlfriend who cheated on him a while back...which makes it a little harder on me. Not only that, but they both have the nerve to complain that they are not in the wedding.  The older sister complains all the time to my fiance - about not being in the wedding and tries to defend the younger sister about not being able to bring a guest to the wedding (invitations haven't even gone out yet) or for not being in the wedding as well.  I feel that the bridesmaids should be a representation of the bride. The older sister threatened that she is not coming to the wedding and if she does, she isn't bringing a gift (not that it matters, but I find her behavior to be uncalled for).  I've never done or said anything to make either sister act so selfish, but it really agitates me because this is the family I will be marrying into.  I've been very honest to the younger sister about the things that weight heavy on me such as the ex-girlfriend or why she wasn't asked to be in the wedding...but I still feel there are too many complaints - like nothing was resolved.  I don't know what to do or how to handle this anymore...My fiance has explained to both sisters as well, but they still want to complain...Any advice you could give would be greatly appreciated!!!!
    Posted by DMcDevitt782[/QUOTE]

    How close is your FI to his sisters?
  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
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    edited December 2011
    Who they choose to be friends with has absolutely nothing to do with you.  Get over it.

    Stop talking to them if they b!tch that much.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011

    why is your fi telling you all this? 

    why can't they be on his side of the wedding party?  btw, if he does add them to the wedding party, be prepared to listen to them complain about how much everything costs.

    as for the ex-gf -- who cares?  if they like her so much, maybe one of them will marry her.

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  • jojobrnjojobrn member
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    edited December 2011
    Just kill them with kindness. 
  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    you don't have to be friends with your inlaws.  there's no rule and no prize, either.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_fiances-female-siblings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:89eef64f-598c-49e3-bed0-8d1289a662d5Post:a753ceb1-038a-44d2-91a0-4263882b6c13">Re: Fiance's Female Siblings...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm not bitching that they are hanging out with her - you're right they can hang out with who they want - it's just the point - no effort on their behalf towards me. Understand now?
    Posted by DMcDevitt782[/QUOTE]

    But how much effort have you made towards them.  The tone of your post is all about what they have or have not done for you.   What have you done to make an effort to get to know them? Maybe they don't like you because they sense that you expect them to put in the effort in the relationship. 
  • zsazsa-stlzsazsa-stl member
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    edited December 2011
    They are immature and selfish.  Just smile and ignore them.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    "You're not bridesmaids because we're not friends.  If you want to be in the wedding, bug your brother about being groomsmaids."

    Repeat as necessary.
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    edited December 2011
    Agreed.  My first thought is why they'd stand up on your side if they're related to him and barely have a relationship with you.
  • hudson411hudson411 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_fiances-female-siblings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:89eef64f-598c-49e3-bed0-8d1289a662d5Post:efcf7b85-f0f8-4f7e-9307-2a7aece94a5f">Re: Fiance's Female Siblings...</a>:
    [QUOTE]"You're not bridesmaids because we're not friends.  If you want to be in the wedding, bug your brother about being groomsmaids." Repeat as necessary.
    Posted by ReturnOfKuus[/QUOTE]



    Great answer.
  • jojobrnjojobrn member
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    edited December 2011
    Why even bother to delete your first post? You were quoted, it still exists. Do you realize this makes you look like you are trying to hide something?
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