Dear Prudie: Umm...IDK if this is something a sibling should 'help' with.

mrsconn23

Dear Prudie,
My brother and sister-in-law have been married for two years but have yet to consummate their marriage. Our family has gathered through tidbits of information that there are several issues. Among them: They were both virgins when they married in their early 20s. She has no sex drive and severe anxiety about how painful intercourse might be. He spent the first six months of the marriage in extreme frustration but now seems to believe that things will just work themselves out. Neither expresses a need for help. They do talk about having children soon, which is awkward to hear. The men in my family have tried to give him advice on how to alleviate her fear and ignite her desire, but he either doesn't get it or it just isn't working. She is also fixated on male celebrities and talks about them like she should be talking about her husband. I love her dearly, and we want to intervene somehow to help them. What should we do?

—Outside Looking In

MizBiscuit

Wow, there is way to much sharing in that family.

biz717

Well that's a whole new level of creepy. I get weirded out when my 25 year old brother talks about his girlfriend sleeping over. I certainly would not be educating him about the importance of foreplay!

hmonkey

brother should wear a brad pitt mask while trying to put his junk in her junk drawer.

ReturnOfKuus

This is going to be BIL and FSIL; I can feel it.

zsazsa-stl

:-\

DG1

How do they even know this?

The babymaking sure will be interesting.

[Deleted User]

No bueno.

AuntFlo

So, I know a couple who were virgins when they got married.   They are both very sweet, innocent, naive and wonderful people.   They've been married about 4 years and just announced their pregnancy.   I have been having a heck of a time imagining how they ended up pregnant.  Not that I usually go around imagining couples having sex, but I was just so surprised by their news that I couldn't help it.  All I can picture is them going back and forth between giggling and saying "Ew!  Gross!" 

6fsn

Why does this sound like something that would happen in the Duggar house?  I imagine those people to really be up in each other's bidness.

Wzz

that sounds like an episode of that show strange sex. they had to go to therapy. the woman was so fearful of sex that she physically couldn't do it. and she had to ask her dad for the money to pay for the therapist.

ElleB87

That family is ridiculously creepy.

ChristineM130

Wzz-- I saw that. Just me, or does it seem like the gyn she went to before her wedding scared her into believing she couldn't do it?

It's inappropriate that they are reaching out to you, but they desperately need help. This will ruin their marriage. They should be meeting with a therapist to get this resolved; both her alone and them together.