Changing the date for a guest?

SereJane

So my fiance's brother is in the military and is currently overseas. My fiance wants him to be his best man, which is wonderful-he was his brother's best man and they've always been close. We planned on getting married on August 6, 2011, which is perfect because it's right after my fiance graduates from college and in a break from school for me. I'll be going back on the 23rd of August.
Here's where the plans change.
His brother can't get back from overseas in time for our weddng. We have to wait a month or so.
I told my fiance we can wait, because I know it's important to him that his brother be there, but I can't help but feel it throws everything off! I'll be in the middle of my school year by then so we can't really take a honeymoon or settle in to our place.
How can I roll with this and not freak out?
Have you done this (change the wedding date for an important person?) How did you cope? Am I being a bridezilla?

Butter Cookie

I would wait. It would mean a lot to your fiance, his brother, and their whole family. There is no rush to get married.

bakes218

My FI's brother is also in the military and he is deployed right now. We are getting married in December and he won't be able to be there. While we are both sad about him not being a part of this day he would absolutely not let us change our date to accommodate him. His parents are fine with this also.

I think you need to do what works best for you and your FI. If it is that important to you both then wait. If you feel like it would be better for you both to do it the earlier date then do that instead. Maybe your FI and his brother need to have a conversation about it.

Good luck!

mrsconn23

I'd move the date to have his brother there. 

There's nothing wrong with a delayed HM.  Do you have any breaks in the first semeseter?  If not, take your HM during the holidays or Spring Break.  Or hell, a year later. 

6fsn

Move the date for the brother.  People get married everyday and go right back to work or school  There is nothing wrong with a delayed HM and I see no reason why it would make a difference to settling in.

My sister moved her wedding to a week before her optometry school finals so her military BIl could be there.  It meant more than anything to her husband and his family.

Mrs.Thistletwat

Move the date. You can get settled into your place before you get married. Delay the honeymoon for a semester break or next summer and just enjoy being married and knowing that you helped your BIL and FI share something very special by changing the date for them.

VarunaTT

Um, you roll with it and you don't freak out.  This really isn't that big of a deal.  You change your date b/c the reason why is far more important than OMG MY HONEYMOON ISN'T RIGHT AFTER MY WEDDING and HOW DO I GET INTO MY HOUSE/APARTMENT?  In all reality, I still have boxes I haven't unpacked in my house 5 years later, so settling takes awhile anyways and as far as the honeymoon, WTF cares when it actually is beyond the 2 of you?

kpwedkk

Wait for your FBIL to be included in your wedding.  Have your honeymoon over Christmas vacation...  if you plan it early, there are cruises and hotels on the cheap now...  We just booked a cruise @ $500 veranda/balcony per person for our next anniversary, because this is the time we both have off!

Good luck!