who do you share your ideas/plans with?

anmorgan32

I'm starting to get really frustrated with my mom. Every idea I have she seems to turn her nose up at and it's getting really frustrating and old and it makes me second guess my self all the time.

Do you just keep plans to yourself? Who do you bounce ideas off of (other than the boards)?

6fsn

I guess it would depend on what she's turning her nose up at.  If the ideas are tacky, rude, out of your budget, or just plain illogical stick with your mom.

If she's just not interested, the boards, your vendors, a close friend/sister, your FI.

Butter Cookie

BFF and Mom. Luckily we can communicate effectively and were both able to say what we felt without the other getting their panties in a bunch. I also let her have some things, since she helped us financially and has more experience planning events.

lisabella7977

I share with no one :-) well except my FI. People just but in and give opinions when not asked when it comes to weddings - example today getting my nails don and the technician was telling me off for not wantig ocitures outside in a park somewhere!!!! WTF??????

 This hasn't been my personal experience with my Mom but after watching numerous friends, siblings of my own and my FI's deal with and get stressed over other people having their say or taking over we decided we would say nothing and just tell everyone it was all a surprise and to just turn up.
 My FI's sister got married 18mths ago and ended up on anti depressants leading up to the wedding with all of the carrying on being bossed about and being made to feel bad if she didn't do this or that. There was no way that was happening to me!

There has been the odd comment - from FMIL via my FI (she won't say anything directly to me!) about not being involved. But as he told her - no one is involved except us two in the planning - its OUR wedding, we are paying for the majority of it ( my parents are helping - there has been no word from his whether they will contribute, they haven't brought it up and I wouldn't dream of as it means they can't make any demands!)
 My parents are fine about knowing nothing and not dictating anything they are happy to turn up and enjoy the day.

Maybe next time you suggest something amd she she does the same thing to you you could say " I wish you wouldn't do that as its making me not want to tell you my ideas"
or just stick to the boards, or a good friend or two. The more input you have the more confusing it can get!!!!! :-)