I'm reading PMegs article down there & Question re: Sex Ed

VarunaTT

Since some of you moms have recently been through it.

We had health class and biology class where human sexuality was discussed (I'm positive this was junior high health class and then freshman biology).  We saw the videos, talked about sex, blah, blah.  At some point in biology, we discussed pregnancy (I don't remember sex + pregnancy being discussed together) from a biological standpoint (genetics, stages of fetus development, etc).

Our health class did include birth control as part of female "health" and I remember the "Scared into Staying A Virgin" where a teen mom came in and talked about her life (before MTV had hold of it, yo).  But I don't remember anyone talking about, "If you get knocked up here are your options".  It was gear towards,"DON'T GET KNOCKED UP!!!!!"

I don't remember ONE TIME, any teacher popping up and stating "And here is where you are allowed to have an abortion and here isn't."  The only teacher I remember addressing abortion at all was when a student brought up the topic.  She told him this wasn't an appropriate venue for that discussion and she would discuss it with him during her free hour if he wished.

Do any of you remember abortion/adoption/keeping baby being discussed? Is it part of sex ed now?

mrsconn23

We were never told about what to do AFTER you find out you're pregnant.  It was all about not getting KU'd OR diseases.  Our health teacher (fresh year) had books with the disease pics.    There was no adoption vs. abortion vs. keeping it adviSe.

I did have a damn cool health teacher and she touched on the emtional aspects of sex and why you may regret it if you give it away too freely.

zsazsa-stl

I remember being handed a pamphlet with some info about crisis pregnancy hotlines and other resources including my own mother's name and home phone number at the end for breastfeeding help.  I wanted to climb under my desk.

hmonkey

everything i know about abortion i learned from "dirty dancing."

Wzz

i don't remember adoption/abortion/keeping a baby being discussed at all during sex ed. we did the while fake yarn baby thing in HS, but i went to a private HS and i am sure they would never condone abortion talk at all, ever Ever EVAR.

i honestly don't even remember hearing about it in college. i think we watched an anti-abortion video in middle school.

but i will say i remember a lot of talk about protection, abstinance and STDs in HS and college.

PMeg819

Never had any discussion about options after you got pregnant. My sex ed stuff was in Texas and Florida public schools so that may very well have been the cause. We were most definitely taught abstinence only in Florida and the first time I had sexy times with a guy we were sort of stumped by condoms (sort of like The 40 Year Old Virgin). Good ole FL public schools.

Wzz

oh yeah, Dirty Dancing was a real eye opener. that is not sarcasm.

granted, i was in grade school at the time, but this was a BIG deal IIRC.

**O-Face**

I'd say no.  Not at all.  Only the mechanics and STDs. 

mrsconn23

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_im-reading-pmegs-article-down-there-question-re-sex-ed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:93d315d8-4564-428d-800f-21fc786629b9Post:2aecf609-6541-4f48-8db9-627475e62ba2">Re: I'm reading PMegs article down there & Question re: Sex Ed</a>:
[QUOTE]oh yeah,<em> Dirty Dancing was a real eye opene</em>r. that is not sarcasm. granted, i was in grade school at the time, but this was a BIG deal IIRC.
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Confession: I watched Dirty Dancing evey day twice a day on summer break between 2nd and 3rd grade.

Confession #2: I didn't realize that Penny had an abortion and that's why she was sick until I was a teenager and rewatched it. 

Wzz

her abortion scared the bejeezus out of me. i imagined a coat hanger and lots of blood and a raging infection. not to mention that someone's parents knew about it. the horror! i was determined to NEVER get KU because if that was the alternative? i would not know what to do with myself.

so there ya go. Dirty Dancing helped me keep my pants on since 1988.

PMeg819

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_im-reading-pmegs-article-down-there-question-re-sex-ed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:93d315d8-4564-428d-800f-21fc786629b9Post:48af34eb-448b-4086-9469-79ce3654c88f">Re: I'm reading PMegs article down there & Question re: Sex Ed</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm reading PMegs article down there & Question re: Sex Ed :   Confession: I watched Dirty Dancing evey day twice a day on summer break between 2nd and 3rd grade. Confession #2: I didn't realize that Penny had an abortion and that's why she was sick until I was a teenager and rewatched it. 
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Agreed. I thought for the longest time she had appendicitis.

hmonkey

"less than zero" kept my pants on and i have never dabbled in drugs because of it.  i mean, it was a straight shot from doing a little drugs to being a prostitute (the real kind, not the bc-takling kind). so you could have more drugs.  i would rather work in a cubicle.

zsazsa-stl

My mother pulled me aside one day and specifically told me that I was forbidden from ever seeing Dirty Dancing.  A month later I was at a sleep over and guess what the birthday girl wanted to watch?  I thought the stink was over the dancing so I only watched with one eye and my head turned away just in case my mother was outside in the bushes..  Like the rest of you the abortion part went over my head until years later.

Wzz

confession - until zsazsa's post i thought the stink was over the dirty dancing.

*Barbie*

i don't recall ever mentioning what to do *if* you got pregnant - because you were supposed to prevent at all costs. (but they didn't really tell you how to do that either) - sex-ed was abysmal. that's why i was curious about what the video included that they are showing to the kids now. i'm planning to start talking to wolverine young, and give her a bit more advice as is age appropriate. i would hope that by the time she has to watch some video in school that she
already knows the material in the video + more.

TheDuckis

Our middle school sex ed program--no joke--told us not to date. And if you *had* to go out with members of the opposite sex, you should go in groups so no one was tempted to have sex. Abortion education was a free day off school if you went to the March for Life. Yay Catholic school. In high school we also got the day off for March for Life. Sex Ed was taught in health, biology, and religion classes. We probably did discuss adoption and abortion in religion class, but in the context of which one would keep you out of hell. They did have a teen mom who gave her baby up for adoption come in once.

junieolive

I went to an all-girls Catholic private school that was pretty progressive.  I don't remember talking about sex but what I do remember very clearly is the nun who taught "Ethics" senior year closing the door to the classroom and swearing us to secrecy about what she was about to say.  She basically told us that she had been a teacher before Roe v Wade and had seen what could happen to a girl who went and got a back alley abortion and that she could never say whose life was more important that teenager or the fetus.... So what I took from that was she thought abortion should be legal.... My mind is still blown that a nun would tell us that.  Pretty brave!

ReturnOfKuus

I never took sex ed.  Everything I learned about diseases, contraception, and after the fact options, I learned from Sassy magazine.

2012FutureMrsB

Wait!? There was an abortion in Dirty Dancing? Wow . . um yeah, guess I missed that! Haven't watched it since I was a kid, so now I'll need to watch it again to see if I will notice it now! haha