So my niece has always been very close to my mother- until she met her fiance. She was close to all of us until she met her fiance. She has cut everyone out of her life over time. Her fiance is an abuser- it is obvioius. My other niece's 4 year old kicked him in the shin because he would not leave her alone he kept tickeling her after she asked him to stop- so he kicked her back!!!! My niece does not see or chooses to ignore that he is an abuser. He will not work, has basically isolated my niece and his own mother has nothing to do with him. My niece was an honors student in college, but is so blind to what this guy is doing.
My mom sent her a very nice letter- saying she missed her. She also told her that she regrets that she is unable to attend her wedding.My niece has not been by to see my parents in over a year. She drives by their house on the way to work, but will not stop. My sister raised her as a single parent and later when she remarried to her new husband he and my niece were very close and she always said that he was better to her than her own father.
Now that she is getting married to this guy all of the sudden her biological dad is her hero and she emailed my sister asking her to "get over her issues with Fiance and come sit in the back at the wedding.That is a huge slap in the face to my sister who has always been there for my niece.
My niece was engaged to this guy 1 week after knowing him. He was her first real boyfriend. Even though they have been together 1 year- that whoe time has been spent with my niece cutting everyone out of her life slowly. She asked her best friend to be in the wedding 1 week after knowing him, and the best friend told her she felt it was too soon for them to be married- so she no longer speaks to her. She asked another person to take pictures- when that friend said she could not do it that week she cut her out of her life.
It just is very sad to watch someone self destruct like this. This is not just a case of a fast wedding,engagement. My concern is how this guy is isolating her and that she does not even care- she has always been a very level headed person. I know she can still think for herself- but I think she is choosing not to.
Just needed to vent- feeling sick about this whole wedding and really hoping that something happens and it gets called off- otherwise I am afraid she has a lot of hard days ahead once they get married because I am sure eventually she will see what an ass this guy is. I just hope she does not have kids with this guy- I would be afraid what he would do to a baby if he had a chance- first time the baby cries will he shake it? Ugg- thanks for letting me vent.