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dreprogal

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GBCK

this person has been a part of your life (by virtue of being with your dad)  for what, 6? years.

What relationship do you have with her?

Wzz

you still seem a little bitter to me. this happened when you were 14, and your dad is still in the relationship? how old are you now?

missfrodo

Do you want your father to be at the wedding?  If yes, then he needs to be invited with her because they are in a relationship.  If you don't want your dad to come, don't invite him or his s/o.

TheMrsC23

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_should-i-invite-the-homewrecker?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:9840d3be-1efd-439a-bdc5-96a1280a0f91Post:74922356-c2d4-43ef-81ff-f916dab8ce4a">should i invite the "homewrecker"</a>:
[QUOTE]My dad cheated on my mom when i was 14 and is still with this female. At first i was bitter and hated her, and so was my mom but they are civil to eachother now. I am not sure if i should invite her out of respect for my dad. Or not invite her because i dont know how my mom would feel about that, especially since she isn't dating anybody.
Posted by dreprogal[/QUOTE]

"This female"... Ummm... :-/

If they've been together since your parents divorced when you were 14, then they are a couple no matter how your parents marriage ended.  You could invite your dad and give him a plus one OR you can suck it up, realize that she's a part of his life and by his relationship with you, she's part of your life and put her name on the invite. 

Do you want to move forward and realize that this is how it is or do you want to be petulant and stuck in the past?

TheMrsC23

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_should-i-invite-the-homewrecker?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:9840d3be-1efd-439a-bdc5-96a1280a0f91Post:6a4593ad-2721-42c0-a4b9-24d786fce27c">Re: should i invite the "homewrecker"</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: should i invite the "homewrecker" : whoa, no need for unnecessary remarks. i am fine with his girlfriend, but i do not want to upset my mom, and my aunt threatened to beat her up. I come her for advice not judgement. 
Posted by dreprogal[/QUOTE]

You called her a 'homewrecker' and 'this female'.  That's not what you call someone you're 'fine' with.

Have you asked your mom how she feels about the situation? 

Your aunt threatening to beat up anyone does nothing to help anything and it's pretty classless.

beardownbchs

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_should-i-invite-the-homewrecker?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:9840d3be-1efd-439a-bdc5-96a1280a0f91Post:8b1c1a5e-364c-4437-8ab9-cd0d8ce407b8">Re: should i invite the "homewrecker"</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: should i invite the "homewrecker" : ok, i didn't call you a homewrecker and i don't see why you would take it to heart, unless you are partial with the word? and saying that about my aunt was giving more information on the situation,<strong> im not about to surround myself with bad energy on the happiest day of my life </strong>just to oblige my father. my mom is uncomfortable with the idea, but would be civil as always. and i suggest you retract the statement about calling my aunt classless, we have all defended our family before. It is something that is programmed into our brains, that is what she is doing for her sister. If you don't feel that way, then you don't know love.
Posted by dreprogal[/QUOTE]

<div>Sounds like you're the only one here with bad energy. </div><div>
</div><div>And there is nothing even remotely classy about an adult who would threaten to beat up another adult at a wedding. Classless is a nice way of putting it. </div>

TheMrsC23

Thanks for getting the last response beard.

I'm lol-ing that I 'don't know love' because I don't have anyone who'll beat up people for me.  Nice.

beardownbchs

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[QUOTE]Thanks for getting the last response beard. I'm lol-ing that I 'don't know love' because I don't have anyone who'll beat up people for me.  Nice.
Posted by TheMrsC23[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>LOl I figured the quote would be important. And the implication that referring to her father's girlfriend of many years as "this female" and "homewrecker" is only offensive if one has dated a married man? Real mature. </div>

Wzz

it's not even that it is offensive - it just show that the OP is still bitter about something that her parents are probably adjusted to. and even if her parents stilll have trouble, it has nothing to do with the OP.

if her dad treated her poorly for ANY reason, then her problem is with her dad, not his girlfriend.

dreprogal

yes, you are all correct. i sure am. regardless. she was invited and my dad decided she wont be attending. so im over it.