I forgot to tell this! For shame.
You may recall that my cousin is getting married and it is a potluck wedding. While on vacation I asked my dad what the deal with that whole thing is. I got a big eyeroll and some more scoop.
Apparently, there are no invitations. It's just supposed to be word of mouth and maybe she'll send out an email or something. The reason for that is because is because invitations are expensive and then you are obligated to send invitations to people you don't really care for and don't want to invite. Okay. My dad was annoyed because he thinks this is a jab at family- my dad's family is pretty dysfunctional (I have an aunt who will not speak to me because of something I supposedly did 10 years ago). He thinks that she doesn't want to invite our family and the rest of my cousins, aunts, and uncles. I think from my dad's family it sounds like outside her immediate family it will be a cousin of mine, an aunt, and my grandfather. Whatev.
The whole thing is supposed to be just a come and do what you want to do party. Her thought is that her friends know her and they know what she enjoys doing so if people want to come and sit and play board games while eating potluck- so be it!
My dad said my aunt has sort of washed her hands of the whole mess because she thinks its utterly ridiculous. That includes any financial contribution.
So beebee's take heed- should you decide that money given to you for a wedding is yours to do as you please, that is not always the case if someone decides they don't like what your doing.