not sure fiance even likes me anymore

Lissalou48

help, i'm not sure if my fiance even likes me anymore. hasn't done anything to help with wedding, don't know what to do.

palrmt

More details would be needed to really give you solid advice.  FWIW my fiance doesn't really get all excited about the planning process either.  I asked him the other day if he wanted to go meet a photographer with me and his response was "not if I don't have to"  It doesn't mean he loves me any less.  It just means that he isn't interested in meeting the photographer.  He will hear all about it when I get home and we will make a decision from there. 

uneek1323

His lack of involvement in wedding planning probably has nothing to do with his feelings about you. Maybe he's just not interested in planning a wedding, but that doesn't mean he's not interested in a marriage with you. Perhaps you should try talking to him instead of internet strangers.

bstent

If your only concern is that he hasn't done anything for the wedding, I don't think that necessarily means anything about his feelings towards you. FI does things when I ask to help with the planning, but he doesn't honestly care about most of the details. 

If there are more issues, you need to talk to him. Open and honest communication is KEY to a successful relationship, and you should have a conversation with him about your concerns, whatever they are

*Barbie*

he's cheating on you with the best man. that's why he doesn't want to talk about the wedding, and why you found all of that gay porn on the computer, and the crumpled tissues and ky in the trash.

ehassett

Um, first, I'm sorry that you got some of those responses...

His lack of involvement could be that, as much as he cares about you, he doesn't have strong feelings about the wedding (let's face it--how many guys really care about how the reception napkins are folded).

Maybe you could plan a fun wedding-planning-free day with him and see if he is still distant. If so, you may want to have a serious talk with him. If he is back to "normal," then it might be best for you to handle more of the wedding planning.

Good luck!

rascal17

If its only the wedding planning that you are having issues with than I wouldnt worry. Most guys dont gave a rats bum about wedding planning and have it in their heads that their only duty is to show up. 

If planning it alone is too much for you then tell him that. Let him know that you need help. I had a breakdown due to the stress of trying to make all the decisions with no help and thats when he realized that I needed help and he started to get involved. So I gave him a few tasks that I knew would keep his interest or easier for him to deal with than for me. (hes in charge of food because our reception is at the restaurant where he is the sous chef, and in charge of DJ details because we are hiring one of his coworkers who DJs on the side) Those are the only two tasks he has and it makes the world of a difference not having to worry about something. It also gets him involved and makes it easier to get his opinion about other wedding related things because I have a foot in the door with him.