DG

NOLABridesmaid

I don't have Kuus's memory, but I remember once you saying that one of your biggest fears is that your husband would one day want to start taking the boys to church.

Do you still feel the same way?
Do you think that now that you have kids your husband would want them to be exposed to God and faith?

nicoleg1982

::butting in::

I have issues with kids and church as it relates to my family.  H's family is all crazy for Jesus and I know there will come a point in time where H will feel we NEED to go to church b/c "it's the right thing to do for the kid(s)."  IMO, if we aren't going now there's no need to start b/c we have a kid.  I'm going out of my comfort zone to attend church w/the ILs this weekend b/c I am a guest in their home.  I just feel all too hypocritical traipsing my tail through church when I'd rather be dragged naked down a highway behind a semi.

Butter Cookie

This is me. FI wants to consider church when we have kids.

I'd rather take them on a hike into the woods and discuss the bible personally.

*Barbie*

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[QUOTE] I just feel all too hypocritical traipsing my tail through church when I'd rather be dragged naked down a highway behind a semi.
Posted by nicoleg1982[/QUOTE]

<div>I go for Christmas and Easter with H and our families, but I'm not a fan. If he wants to take our kids to church, he's welcome, but i'll be staying at home. H gets those occasional bouts of Catholic guilt where he'll feel bad and go to mass for a few weeks, but he's not a regular by any means, either. (He's just not a heathen like me.)</div>

baconsmom

I don't understand taking kids to church - and y'all know how often I'm there. Talking to kids about faith and deities and beliefs? Sure. Making them sit for an hour or more service that they don't understand and can't follow along with because they're too young? Way to make them hate religion. 

I don't take Bacon to church regularly. Christmas, maybe; Easter, sometimes; other occasions if it's convenient. But she gets bored, doesn't get anything out of it, and distracts me from what I want to get out of it. It just feels so pointless - and it would be doubly so if I didn't believe in the first place. 

6fsn

I tak 6let when DH is on call.  Once every 5 weeks seems like a good compromise for now.

Butter Cookie

Bmom does the catholic church not do Sunday School for children?

notamrs

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[QUOTE]This is me. FI wants to consider church when we have kids. I'd rather take them on a hike into the woods and discuss the bible personally.
Posted by Butter Cookie[/QUOTE]

Find a good Unitarian Church.

NOLABridesmaid

Bacon, my church has awesome childrens classes. They teach them bible stories, and they pray together, play games. They love it. I agree that kids can get bored in reg church, but they also can enjoy the music, and being in a community of other believers.

I think it's important.

nicoleg1982

Sunday school is before church for Baptists (usu.) and children's church goes on during most of the adult service.  IMO, why am I taking my kid and dumping her here and there while I get my church on due to some ridiculous obligation that H feels the need to satisfy.  I told him he could take DD but I'd be staying home.  He has yet to mention wanting to go to church.

6fsn

BC- every church is different.  The one I grew up in has a kid's service where they leave during the homily.  They also have full on daycare room.  My church doesn't even have a cry room.

Butter Cookie

I'll admit I haven't been in Sunday School in years, but I thought it was in lieu of regular church (at least, I'm pretty sure that's how it was at all the ones I went to as a child) for kids.

A unitarian church would probably be the only kind of church I'd go to. I think it's important to be with others who have the same basic belief system, but not have my children brainwashed or given any sort of indication that any other religion is wrong. If my kid came out of sunday school with some notion that catholicism or hinduism was wrong I'd probably lose it. But I might want to research before I get all up in arms.  Clearly my religious experiences have not been good, but I don't want to rub that bias off onto any future children.