Two Questions

ocangel85

im not sure if this is in the right section but i have two questions.

First I recently got engaged a month ago and my cousins best friend got engaged the same night. She picked her wedding date before i did witch is in sept 2013 and a week or so later i picked mine to be in march of 2013. My cousin Just told me its not proper etiquette to get married the same year your friend gets married. Is that true? we were saying the end of next year but we want to save up to go to europe and those extra months will help. 

second since we picked march my mom and my cousin said your not suppose to get married during lent. my fiance isn't religious at all and I not really either and we wont be getting married in a church. So does it matter if we get married during lent? 

TheDuckis

Think of how ridiculous it is to expect no one in a social group to get married in the same year. Really. You have no obligation to schedule your life around anyone but your FI and yourself. Your cousin is crazycakes.

Some churches will not schedule weddings during Lent because it's a somber time. If you're not getting married in a church, you don't have that problem. That doesn't stop your mother from thinking it's inappropriate, but it's up to you how much that matters.

nannewmur

You stated it is your cousin's friend so I translate this as not your friend,  It is not polite to pick the same wedding date as a friend for several Obvious reasons.  Once again, you did not state this is your friend nor the same date so you should be fine with the date.

As for Lent, some churches do not allow weddings during Holy Week.   Celebrating a couples' start of their lives together while observing the impending death resurrection of Jesus, for those who observe Jesus as their Saviour, is a liittle conflicting.  Also, many people will give up something during Lent, whether it be a certain food, activity or habit.  Having a wedding during Holy Week could effect your guests, whether it be attending religous services over your wedding or not eating certain foods, so please keep that in mind.

*Barbie*

you get 1 day, your acquaintance gets 1 day -  your dates are 5-6 months apart, so I really don't see why this is a big deal. even if you have a large overlap in guests, there's still several months in between weddings.

if you want to get married in a roman catholic church, you may have issues with a date during lent. many churches will not perform any baptisms or weddings during lent. since you said that you are not planning to get married in a church, there shouldn't be an issue. it may piss off some of your more devout relatives, but so will not being married in a church.

ocangel85

Thank you everyone. My cousin mentioned about not getting married the same year and i never heard it before so i was wondering about it. 

for the lent I guess i should find out who would have a problem with it but i dont think a lot of my family or his would, maybe 2 or 3 people.. 

ReturnOfKuus

Eh.  It's always an inappropriate time for someone's religion.  If it's not lent, it's ramadan or whatever.  The only religion you really have to plan around is your own, and since neither of you appear to have one, well, good news!