Cold Feet :(

kecoff01

My fiance and I are at the 8 month countdown mark, and I have just recently developed what could possibly be "cold feet" in the last few weeks or so.  I have been feeling "trapped" in my situation and it's hitting me that this is a huge, lifelong commitment.  The fear and the anxiety has driven me to picking apart my fiance until all of his flaws are exposed and I am mercilessly holding them against him.  And what doesn't help the situation is that a coworker and close friend of mine has turned into what I've seen other people refer to as the "what-if" guy.  So now there's like a running comparison chart flowing through my mind for a large part of the day.  I've heard that this is "normal" for most people (not all), and I was just wondering if there was anyone who was having similar or who had similar feelings and how they're dealing with them?  It's annoying the heck out of me!
Thanks girls!

Stayc516

I know that I want to marry my FI. Yes, he has his faws but I look at the overall package. Unless these flaws are something huge like a drug problem, financial issues,  or he's lazy and won't get a job then I'd say that it's normal and you are just freaking out. However, if he has major issues then I'd definitely reconsider. If his flaws are just silly little habits he has then that's something you can live with. If he is good to you, treats you with respect, loves you with all his heart, and doesn't manipulate you then I wouldn't worry. You have found a good one in that case.

erollis

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_cold-feet-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:9c71869a-14d8-4f7b-9741-edc176ec36d7Post:1f186aee-25f7-4128-b18e-dcebb92613c8">Re: Cold Feet :(</a>:
[QUOTE] If he is good to you, treats you with respect, loves you with all his heart, and doesn't manipulate you then I wouldn't worry. You have found a good one in that case.
Posted by Stayc516[/QUOTE]

I have to agree with this.

ReturnOfKuus

I disagree with previous posters.  A guy doesn't have to be heinous to be wrong for you, or for you to just not want to or not be ready to marry him.

I think if you were ready, you wouldn't be trying your damnedest to get out of it by developing a crush on another guy. 

deanabuonincontri

Ask yourself this question....could you live the rest of your life without your fiance? my guess is the answer is no!

Most likely you are crushing on a co-worker because wedding plans are stressful and youre nervous. The co-worker is probably showing you attention and its nice to get attention! Don't read too much into it. 

Now if you even had to think about my question at all, even for a split second, then there is something wrong.  I agree with the previous post....a guy can be amazing....but that doesn't mean he is right for you. It is NEVER too late to call if ott if you are really unsure. It would be worse in the end to go through with it.

Remember, marriage is forever. And it isn't easy. You will be tempted in the future too. But if you love your guy, really love him....then focus on the positive.

Good luck!