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FMIL Doesn't Seem Happy

So here is my problem.  My fiance and I are planning a wedding in Florida, while we live in Texas. Both he and I have family all over the country so we thought, if everyone has to travel anyways why not make it somewhere fun.  We originally wanted to go out of the country but she nixed that.  Well now that she finally got me her list of invitees she's indicated that she only feels like 14 guests will come to Florida.  My fiance think's this is stupid and that more people than that will come.
My problem is that I can't tell if this is her snarkey way of saying she doesn't think we should do this in Florida either!!  I just don't feel like I know how to make her happy. I think she wants us to do this in Texas but we don't want to.  It should be where we want it to be right? Oh, and they aren't helping with the money part of the wedding, that's all my family and they are totally behind the destination.  Should I just say forget about her?  That's what her son, my fiance says! Help!

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    ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    She's saying that few people travel to go to destination weddings, nothing more.  And she's not wrong.
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    baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    I go through life assuming people mean exactly what they say. That way, even when they get pissy about how you're not telepathic, you can't feel guilty. You did what they said. You listened. 

    She's saying: I don't think people will travel. 
    You say: OK. And then invite them anyway. 

    Life is not a series of tests to see how well you can tease the truth from the crazy. (Or if it is, I'm happily failing.) 
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    6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011

    What the others said.  She's just saying 14 people will likely come. 

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    abby7docabby7doc member
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    edited December 2011
    I definitely undestand that less people will come to a destination wedding. That's some of the draw and we had no problem getting rid of the caribbean or mexico idea that she didn't like.  She just seems to be unhappy with everything and dragging her feet to get me any info that I need.  I think I just need to follow my fiance's logic and just let it go.  
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    mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_fmil-doesnt-seem-happy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:9cf26751-a69a-47a3-bfe7-a4d0c4104500Post:6908f7c7-7564-4380-897f-35d97943d556">Re: FMIL Doesn't Seem Happy</a>:
    [QUOTE]I definitely undestand that less people will come to a destination wedding. That's some of the draw and we had no problem getting rid of the caribbean or mexico idea that she didn't like.  She just seems to be unhappy with everything and dragging her feet to get me any info that I need. <strong> I think I just need to follow my fiance's logic and just let it go.  </strong>
    Posted by abby7doc@gmail.com[/QUOTE]

    Um yeah, since it's *his* mother and all.
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    ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    So don't involve her.  It's less hassle that way, anyway.
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    hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    oh, she's not paying?  okay then.
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    ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    Why do you feel such a compulsion to please your MIL when her own son has told you to let it go?

    That's - not healthy. 
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    mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_fmil-doesnt-seem-happy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:9cf26751-a69a-47a3-bfe7-a4d0c4104500Post:5645f51f-1e60-442e-8082-42ba4c4bf712">Re: FMIL Doesn't Seem Happy</a>:
    [QUOTE]Why do you feel such a compulsion to please your MIL when her own son has told you to let it go? That's - not healthy. 
    Posted by baconsmom[/QUOTE]

    This.  Or why do you feel the need to 'prove' something to her?

    WINNING: Ur doin' it rong.
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    L_WoodsL_Woods member
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    edited December 2011
    I hope you don't mind being signed up for porn emails and/or eharmony.
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    edited December 2011
    At least she's willing to come herself. My FMIL has told my FI essentially he can go screw himself. She's not coming and it's not fair that, with my family paying for all of it, that he is doing this to his family. 
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