Annoyed!!!!

JacquelineC83

I have a ways until our nuptuals in September, but I am a HUGE procrastinator and I would like to figure out a budget. Everytime I talk to my fiancee about it I get an eye roll and he is never around to just sit and talk about it. Should I just start getting price quotes for the wedding I want and then figure the money out as time gets closer? Please Brides I need advice!!!

Wzz

you already picked a date?

you'll need to figure out how much money you'll have by that date. well, i would say by the two-month mark before that date. that's generally when vendors might be asking for their final payments.

so let's say you know you'll have $2k by july, that is how much you can spend on the wedding. you can start planning from there in my opinion. i dont recommend waiting to see how the money thing works out as you go along. weddings can get expensive.

where is barbie with her no-nonsense advice? i need to know her thoughts on this.

tawillers

You need to know how much you can afford before you start planning.  I mean, you could start getting price quotes, but it's not going to mean much until you know what you are able to work with.

Maybe you can just make a list of services you are going to need (florist, baker, dj, photog, etc) and decide what is most important to you.  Where are you willing to cut/diy so you can spend more on something else?

Why is your FI balking on the planning?  What's with the eyerolls?  Why is he never around to talk?

NeedWeddingFavors

You and FI need to have an understanding here, if his take on the wedding is that it is not important, that's something you'll want to know before you spend a dime or even a minute on this wedding...

Amt2109

Aye... with the wedding in September and your FI not even wanting to talk about it... I'd be worried about this.

He needs to sit down and talk to you about this. Talking about money etc is really good practice for doing that after you're married... the fact that he won't is a red flag to me.

I'd be figuring out if he's on the same page as you and whether you might need to postpone.

heatherrenee527

I think there is a difference between being uninterested in wedding planning and avoiding money issues.  I would sit down with him and discuss your concerns.  If he's just not interested in all the planning, that's fine but you two need to have the talk about money.  It's not easy to throw a wedding together last minute so he needs to understand your need to plan. 

You cannot realistically start planning until you have a budget.  You and FI and anyone else who may be pitching in need to discuss money and come up with a budget.  From there, figure out what is the most important to you.  You can put money towards important stuff and allocate less for things that you may not care so much about or completely eliminate them (such as favors, if you are on a tight budget).  If you ever need help with prioritizing or cutting stuff out of the budget, you can always PM me.  I'm always happy to help brainstorm.  Best of luck.

JacquelineC83

Ladies you are alll wonderful!!!! I loved reading all the advice. My FI is just not into planning FYI so please don't say I need to worry. He says it's all about the bride so I know I just need to sit down ask about a budget adn go from there. I am very excited and all i need is a damn budget!!!! We have been planning this since August so I have waited a long time to get the details. I told him last night that we are going to set aside 1 day and talk wedding. He won't be bothered with every little detail just the important stuff. He agreed. I'll keep you guys posted!!! any ideas on somewhere to have a small quick ceremony (less then an hour) and then a place to maybe just hang out and have cake??? Thanks again!!!