What to do?

Higgins12

This is the situation...we've decided on who we want as attenants in our wedding. We've asked them 2 weeks ago, everyone has said yes except for my MOH (my sister) and a Bridesmaid (my sister in law). I'm not really close to either of them (I live an hour away) they live doors down from each other. I've called, I've texted...I've facebooked...I get no reply, In person I get the run around..Now I'm starting to stress. I've told them both if they can't do it I'd understand but I need to know A.S.A.P so I know what I'm going to end up doing. NOTHING. I don't want to hurt anyones feelings, but my feelings are starting to get hurt not to mention I'm stressing...should I forget abt them and ask someone else? Or should I keep waiting? I don't know what to do...but the sooner I know...the sooner I can get this ball rolling.

MNNEBride

You are 576 days away from your wedding and have plenty of time.  I don't know why they are stalling on a reply but you don't need to stress.  The big things like ceremony and reception location, your dress, photographer etc. can be decided without knowing exactly how many bridesmaids you are having.

alikatt17

You have plenty of time.  You can wait until at least a year before the wedding to ask anyone.  Some people plan their weddings in less than 6 months.

tawillers

I agree with the others that you have plenty of time.  I think you don't necessarily need to know ASAP, you're just feeling rejected and panicky because they haven't responded.

While it's crappy that they haven't said either way, you can't un-ask them.  You aren't close to them and you probably asked because you felt obligated, but now you just have to wait until they respond.

Give them some time.  They may be feeling awkward as well because you guys aren't close and they may not know how to proceed.

Wzz

you have 576 days to get a response from them. maybe this is their way of letting you know they either have other more important things to decide to do 576 days from now, or they are thinking it over. either way, harassing them for an answer NOW isn't going to make anyone happy.

tell me, when you leave a voicemail for someone, do you call them back 30 minutes later to ask why they are taking so long to get back to you?