Three weeks to go and now IM FREAKING OUT!!!

Uumpabo1

Hi ladies let me apologize in advance as this is more me just having an all day anxiety attack than asking for advice. I realize that its "normal" for brides to get a little nutty as the wedding gets closer but I think I may be going crazy. I'm not normally the girl who gets all panicky but I cannot seem to help it. I feel like Im fighting a constant bout of pms here. All day long anytime the wedding is mentioned to me Im either crying, freaking out or running to the bathroom because my stomach is all in knots. Is this normal???? I mean everything is set, Im marrying my best friend, we've lived together for 4 years we have a daughter. Other than the actual papers we're living like married people already so why the heck have I turned into an emotional puddle? Did you go through this? Any of you? Any advice? Im tearing up just asking these questions which makes me want to laugh but then i wouldn't be able to see my keyboard. Thanks in advance.
Heather

missjean81302

oh honey!!!! Its probably alot of things combined. I am not that close to my wedding, but I think I might be freaking out when i'm that close as well....FIRST and foremost (and I dont mean this to be rude by any means) do you have any type of history of depression or anxiety, and if so are you medicated for it? I found myself feeling like that all the time a few years ago and got on Zoloft for anxiety/depression and it has helped me SOOOOOO much. You might want to check with your doctor about that. 
But aside from any underlying medical conditions you may have, it could just be the realization that there will be nothing left to do after the wedding is over and done with. You have dated, taken the big step of moving in together, had a child together (all of these are great milestones in a relationship) and now you will be getting married. After that, then what? You might even feel a great letdown after the wedding, especially when you realize nothign has changed, aside from the fact that you now call your sig. other your "husband" instead of "boyfriend" or "fiance" I know this because I am in a similar situation. I live with my fi and everything is great. We dont have a child together, but I do have a daughter from a previous relationship, and he has accepted her as his own. It kinda starts to make you think "whats the point in all this?"

I'll tell you what the point is: You will be declaring your love for this person in front of God and your family and friends, committing yoruself to be with him for the rest of your life, and no matter what happens in life, you will NEVER forget this day. So keep your chin up, and thank the good lord you have found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, and just think happpy thoughts. Focus on the wonderful things, take deep breaths, and try to cherish all those small but happy moments in your life.

Uumpabo1

Thank you Miss Jean Its a new morning so lets start off on a new foot. No I don't suffer from depression or anything I know these feelings are just temporary. Its just getting past them thats the trouble. You're right I am marrying my best friend. Thank you very much for your kind words they really mean a lot.