"I love my son more than my daughter": Discuss.

baconsmom · March 2011

This woman has now written two pieces about how her son is awesome YEAH! because they bonded at birth, and how she wouldn't mind if her daughter died because they didn't and she was a difficult baby.

OK, I'm over-essentializing, but still. It approaches that level of ridiculousness.

http://blogs.babble.com/being-pregnant/2011/03/15/mom-confession-i-think-i-love-my-son-a-little-bit-more/

http://blogs.babble.com/being-pregnant/2011/03/16/im-not-a-perfect-mother/

Thoughts?

I think she's an idiot for putting this on the internet. What if her daughter sees this? I mean, yes, of course parents have favorites, and some are better at hiding it than others, but shouldn't all parents make that effort? I know my mother tried. She wasn't good at it, but she tried, and I appreciated the effort.

Also? This is yet another reason to be happy at having an only.

baconsmom · March 2011

Oh, for perspective: Her daughter is 3, and her son is 20 months.

Yes. She's decided this that early in their lives. Nice.

hmonkey · March 2011

what's wrong with her head? it looks like she was caught in some suctioning device.

NOLABridesmaid · March 2011

I'm sure they will grow up to love dad more than her too.

Kids pick up on the crazy, yo.

ReturnOfKuus · March 2011

My biggest question is, WHY IS SHE HAVING MORE KIDS?! She already knows that she's an assh*le to her daughter, and now she's talking about having another daughter to also treat better than her first one.

LnR70707 · March 2011

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[QUOTE]what's wrong with her head? it looks like she was caught in some suctioning device.
Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]

4 years here and this comment made me laugh and get called on it for the first time by a co-worker...I had to lie about a funny email.

I think she might benefit from some counseling.

baconsmom · March 2011

Kuus, she's just going to get a do-over! She'll bond instantly! It'll be wonderful!

FTR? I have no idea what she's talking about with this "instant bonding" sht. I resented the hell out of Bacon for a good portion of her early life, but I still loved her. I recognized it wasn't her fault for existing, and I loved her. I got up in the middle of the night, I sat and fed her for hours at a time, I never left the house because I couldn't feed her in public.

I don't think this makes me a bad mother, nor does it make me a great mother. I think it's a pretty pedestrian experience, frankly, and not worthy of writing about at great length or making excuses for. It's just normal human emotion, and you deal with it and move on. You recognize that your feelings shouldn't dictate your actions.

Love is a verb, and a choice. She needs to man up and start choosing it, or she'll lose her kids.

ReturnOfKuus · March 2011

Oh, I get the do-over. But she realizes that her first daughter will still exist, right, and will be neglected even more?

dharmabunny · March 2011

She's a flucking idiot. And sorry, blogging it doesn't legitimize it. I wonder if she's the same kind of woman that believes that love at first sight is the only real love there is for a husband to be. Even if he is an abusive meth-head with a big johnson that fraudulently charged $5K on her cc.

It really pains me to read that somehow she absolutely cannot separate her awful first child recovery experience with the child herself. I'm sure the little girl at 2-3 weeks really made it a point in her schedule of pooping, eating and sleeping, to put up those emotional walls to not let love in.

Although I'd really love to dispel the idea that if there's no 'love at first sight' baby bonding, then clearly you don't love your own child (she seems to have taken to this idea hook, line and sinker). I really would have loved to have heard that little bit beforehand. It would have made the first three weeks with baby a lot less torturous.

Under the writer's logic, I'm sure those women that had NICU babies, hotmess C-sections, hospitalized for psychiatric issues, or just had a terrible spell of PPD don't love their babies so much because the whole immediate after birth bonding was taken away and was hormonally dissolved.

baconsmom · March 2011

Whatever. Her dad will totally take up the slack!

GBCK · March 2011

ya know...anymore it's not 'if' her daughter sees it, it's WHEN.

Lady needs a junkpunch.

ReturnOfKuus · March 2011

I would be 95% sympathetic to the mother if she wrote and posted this article anonymously. But like this, telling the world that her daughter is second fiddle? What an assh*le.

[Deleted User] · March 2011

I wonder why her kid was taken away from her shortly after birth.

Clearly this lady is demented. She needs help. While I am not a Mom, I can tell you that something isn't right with her.

However, I can relate. My Mom has said things to my sister and I that she wishes she wouldn't of had one of us or that we are just little b!tches. As an adult, I have learned to forgive her and our relationship is on the mend. But I still have to be careful what I say to her. I am closer to MIL than her. The way I look at it is that my parents just sucked at parenting and I have tried to learn from their mistakes for when we have our own kids.