Would it bother you if FIs ex is still on his checking acct?

Mandylynn1179

I'm trying to be rational and not fly off the handle, but Ive had a really really emotionally devistating weekend and then get the mail today to see his ex gfs name on his account. Hes told me in the past he had trouble getting her off of it bc he has to open a new account ect and it has all these stipulations ect. But tell me from an unbiased point of view, would you be livid? We have been together over 2 years now.

6fsn

Let's just say he wouldn't be my FI if someone else was still on his acct.  Not from any sort of emotional issues, but I wouldn't want my credit tied to some random ex.

sdana924

Have him close the account why is she still on there is this a joint account. Close it open a new one its not that difficult. And the biggest question is why did you JUSt find this out. Thats a problem

TheDuckis

Um yes. There's a whole parade of red flags there.

Madisonpenny

does this not scream double life to anyone? Yea.. if he's saying there's 'stipulations' from closing this account or not taking his name off it.. OR better yet just not using that one and getting a new one.. and you believe it... Well then all I can say is you deserve what you get.

KDRachael1

Before you totally freak, I had a heck of a time getting my mom's name off my checking account that she opened for me when I was 17. I turn 31 tomorrow and the last time I ordered checks they still had her name on them too!! I requested to have her taken off 10 years ago and they keep assuring me that they have. But I do think he should just close that account and open one with you. That should take care of it.

ElleB87

What stipulations is he talking about?? There's no logical reason to keep the account open if they are no longer together...there's no way in hell I would trust an of ex's with access to my bank account.

RebeccaB88

He wouldn't be my FI.

vstu12

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_would-bother-fis-ex-still-his-checking-acct?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:ad4c979e-af74-49f1-8194-9271ed5f47bePost:ccd9d336-4b96-46f5-b134-d16ec761887d">Re: Would it bother you if FIs ex is still on his checking acct?</a>:
[QUOTE]Um yes. There's a whole parade of red flags there.
Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]

<div>THIS exactly. What else is she still on?</div>

4LeafClover3

I work for a bank and I am sorry but it is super easy to just close the account and then open a new one in his own name. There really aren't any stipulations to that. Now to just get her name off the account might have some paper work involved and actually have her needed to take her off but he can seriously close the account and open a new one in his own name or a joint account with you. These are HUGE red flags to me. Sounds like he is being shady. I mean, why haven't you known about this until now? And like PP said, what else are they jointly tied to each other with? I would be beyond livid and not sure I would want to marry someone who kept that from me and isn't willing to completely remove her from the financial part of his life.

eck036

I think PPs have it covered, but yes, this is not normal, and not good. I would not accept his excuses.

foreverdress

 Now to just get her name off the account might have some paper work involved and actually have her needed to take her off but he can seriously close the account and open a new one in his own name or a joint account with you. 

GBCK

yeeeeah, that's just creepily enmeshed.

*Barbie*

You're an idiot for staying with a guy who cannot and will not separate his finances from his ex's finances. as PP have said, it is not the least bit difficult to close out a bank account and open a new one.

Rlmyers

Just seems weird to me that you are just now finding out about this. But I will say that my bank will not let me take someone off of my account but I can go and close the account and open a new one no questions asked. Kinda weird but thats the way the bank works.

And I would be livid.

Madisonpenny

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_would-bother-fis-ex-still-his-checking-acct?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:ad4c979e-af74-49f1-8194-9271ed5f47bePost:3ad4e3e7-c3ca-4d91-b69f-719940151a43">Re: Would it bother you if FIs ex is still on his checking acct?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Would it bother you if FIs ex is still on his checking acct? : THIS exactly. What else is she still on?
Posted by vstu12[/QUOTE]

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