RSVP from someone who wasn't on the guest list!!

ktliz114

We are recieving our rsvps and someone replied that was not sent an invitation. I have a pretty good idea that my FH's aunt gave them her son's rsvp card (we recieved the aunt's rsvp, her grown daughter's rsvp, but not her grown son's rsvp who is in the wedding btw). She asked a few months ago if they could be invited and I told her no. We don't know them and are trying to cut back on numbers. They are FH's aunt's family friend, not even my mother-in-law's family friend. I was told to expect some weird rsvps but never expected anything like this. What do I do? Tell them they can't come? We are already nearing our max number of guest for the venue and budget.

arbolita

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[QUOTE]We are recieving our rsvps and someone replied that was not sent an invitation. I have a pretty good idea that my FH's aunt gave them her son's rsvp card (we recieved the aunt's rsvp, her grown daughter's rsvp, but not her grown son's rsvp who is in the wedding btw). She asked a few months ago if they could be invited and I told her no. We don't know them and are trying to cut back on numbers. They are FH's aunt's family friend, not even my mother-in-law's family friend. I was told to expect some weird rsvps but never expected anything like this. What do I do? <strong>Tell them they can't come?</strong> We are already nearing our max number of guest for the venue and budget.
Posted by ktliz114[/QUOTE]


Yes.

TheDuckis

Honestly, your FI and/or his mother need to talk to his aunt and tell her how absolutely insulting and unacceptable this is. Then she needs to call these people and let them know that she overstepped her bounds and there is not room for them at the wedding.

I can't even imagine. This is almost funny.

**O-Face**

It's funny because we're not involved, but man I would be pissed.

Yeah, your FI's family needs to take care of this.  If someone has the balls to do that for a wedding, she's probably known for doing crap like this.

loveshine1

Ditto Duckis.

If you don't want them there, they don't get to come.

Heffalump

I cannot imagine taking someone else's response card to RSVP for a wedding.  It bottles the mind.

hmonkey

"i apologize, but it looks like you accidentally received an invitation intended for someone else.  i can't imagine how this could have happened.  we hope you understand.  we're reaching the limit on space and sadly, we can't accomodate another soul.  we're so sorry, stranger danger."

ReturnOfKuus

I like hmonkey's response.  I don't think you should let your fiance's family handle it - at this rate, they're likely to handle it by photocopying your invitation and sending out more.

ktliz114

thanks for the responses, they made me laugh a little at this ridiculous situation. so to make it even better, just talked to my mother-in-law....someone whos not coming gave her their invitation (who knows why they didnt just send their rsvp in) and she gave the invitation to the univited couple. it so ridiculous it is funny. where did all these people learn their manners...oh they didn't! I'm going to make sure these people don't come and my mother-in-law knows it, just for the principle of the matter.

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Why would these people even want to go? This whole thing is strange.

quotequeen

This makes me happy that I'm filling the names in on the response cards before I send them out.

arbolita

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_rsvp-someone-wasnt-guest-list?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:b104bfae-9cc4-4226-8aaa-81ed046cc99fPost:7c1a0b55-e237-4a2a-a93d-2990cb63c336">Re: RSVP from someone who wasn't on the guest list!!</a>:
[QUOTE]This makes me happy that I'm filling the names in on the response cards before I send them out.
Posted by quotequeen[/QUOTE]


Sure, go ahead and take all the fun out of it.