Low Attendance

akresge

I'm a little upset about the attendance rate for my wedding. FI and I invited 220 people to our wedding, but only 100 people are coming, which means less than 50% attendance rate. It's not a destination wedding or around a holiday, so it makes me think people just don't care very much about my wedding, which makes me really sad.

Did anyone else have this low of an attendance rate? And was the wedding still fun, or did it feel really empty? I know the day of I'm not going to be focused on how many people are there, and it is not at all about getting presents/money. I am just sad that so many people I really wanted to share my wedding with RSVP'ed no without any explanation.

hmonkey

why do they owe you an explanation?  it's not a bench warrant, and each person who is not coming just saved you $50. 

NOLABridesmaid

Yeah, 100 is a good number for a wedding. Now, if there is something extra you really wanted, get it.

Think of it in more positive terms. The people coming are your nearest and dearest.

Mrs.Thistletwat

think of the money you're saving. It sucks that so many aren't coming but a 100 person wedding isn't anything to turn your nose up at. That's a pretty big party.

Wonderw1fe

The way to refer to it as an "attendance rate" clues me into my so many people don't want to come.

akresge

That's true, I hadn't really thought about it in those terms. At least the people who are there really want to be, and 100 people who really care is pretty spectacular

thanks!!

6fsn

Most people don't give a reason why they can't come.  You're getting married during the height of wedding and graduation season.  It doesn't surprise me that so many people can't come.  100 sounds like a nice number though.

Butter Cookie

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[QUOTE]I'm a little upset about the attendance rate for my wedding. FI and I invited 220 people to our wedding, but only 100 people are coming, which means less than 50% attendance rate. It's not a destination wedding or around a holiday, so it makes me think people just don't care very much about my wedding, which makes me really sad. Did anyone else have this low of an attendance rate? And was the wedding still fun, or did it feel really empty? I know the day of I'm not going to be focused on how many people are there, and it is not at all about getting presents/money. I am just sad that so many people I really wanted to share my wedding with RSVP'ed no without any explanation.
Posted by akresge[/QUOTE]


Are you kidding? Less mouths to feed? Be happy.

Also: I haven't sent out invites yet, but I'm only inviting 75. I suppose if I invited all my cousins and aunts and uncles and work friends  I could take it up to 220, but it would seem gift-grabby since I'm not actually close with them.

zsazsa-stl

A lot of people forget to give a gift if they don't come to the wedding.  Have you thought about having a 2nd reception a week or two later so that people who have conflicts on your wedding day can come to that?