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Prenuptial Agreement Conversation

dberrettdberrett
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Hi ladies!
I'm stressing over this big time... My mother and father want me to get a prenup and I'm afraid it'll break my fiance's heart, though I am pretty sure he'd sign it anyway. He's just THAT nice of a guy. See, I inherited some money from my grandmother a few years ago and it's nicely tucked away in investments. I also own a condo. My fiance has some bonds and such, but they aren't worth as much as my assets. I don't know how to broach this subject with him, without hurting his feelings. Any ideas? I don't want this to come from anyone else.
Thanks!
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Re: Prenuptial Agreement Conversation

  • ~~Busy.~~~~Busy.~~ member
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    edited December 2011
    "my parents think you are a gold digger and if you sign this you'll prove that you're not.  After you sign I will blow you to show there are no hard feelings."
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    "Honey, let's get our lawyers together and draft something to protect both our assetts. I think we'll both feel better if we know we're protected."

    Marriage is not all about love; it is also a financial arrangement. As such, it's important for you to protect your interests, and for him to protect his. 
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    why can't you just hide the money in the grand caymans anyway?  it will be safe from the taxman and safe from your gold digging husband.  win win.
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  • DG1DG1 member
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    edited December 2011

    I vote for hmo's suggestion first. Then Busy's. Then Baconsmom's.

    How much money are we really talking about, here? 

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  • dharmabunnydharmabunny member
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    edited December 2011
    Tell your FI you found a perfect home for your inequitable soon to be co-assets in Dharma Ponzi Investments, LLC.  You and your hubby to be are welcome to invest! 

    I'll give you triple the return on your current investments!  Gar-ron-teed! Money mouth
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  • tawillerstawillers member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_prenuptial-agreement-conversation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:b59e42df-1920-4c56-b208-329c42931edaPost:ec5dd1d7-9358-430b-a539-1ef6acded90c">Re: Prenuptial Agreement Conversation</a>:
    [QUOTE]IHow much money are we really talking about, here? 
    Posted by DG1[/QUOTE]

    Yes.  This is something we need to know.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    A better question is, why is this any of your parents' business?
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  • katenadjohnkatenadjohn member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_prenuptial-agreement-conversation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:b59e42df-1920-4c56-b208-329c42931edaPost:15fea170-5fff-4ba3-81bb-01a7c0db96f0">Re: Prenuptial Agreement Conversation</a>:
    [QUOTE]A better question is, why is this any of your parents' business?
    Posted by ReturnOfKuus[/QUOTE]

    Ditto this... if you're old enough to get married, you should only get a prenup if you REALLY think it's necessary, not just because your parents think you should, but it's nice that they're worried about your assets.  Unless it's a ridiculous amount of money, I think prenups are silly - if he's THAT nice of a guy, then everything should work out even without a prenup.
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  • Hermine35Hermine35
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I have more assets than my future husband and I am not personally worried about this. We are getting married because we are committed to making this work. Do you think you need a pre-nuptial agreement or is this all your parents?
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