church question

kristenconner89

My fiance and I are both Catholic, however neither of us has been to church in a while. We are set to get married in a family member's parish in September. The church assigned us our wedding time.. 2:30 in the afternoon (since there is a Saturday mass). That isn't exactly ideal since our reception is planned for the evening and we don't want to have to pay several extra hours for the DJ for the reception to start earlier. And we don't want guests to be bored.

My fiance found another church he has done work with (he installs playgrounds) that is open on our date and willing to work with a time schedule.  It isn't extremely important to us where to get married, just as long as we do! But I am afraid it will cause a big stink with the part of the family that is still very Catholic.

Is it okay to switch churches?

getaclue44

If it doesn't matter to guys and you don't have a connection to the church, I don't see a problem. I chose the church my parents got married in, so I would never think of changing it. We have a time layover too...we are doing a 90 minute cocktail hour to help alleviate it.

NeedWeddingFavors

I don't really see a reason NOT to change churches, if you are concerned about the one "family member" possibly being offended, you should explain your very good reason to do so and that it is not personal against them and move on. If they are upset over it, it will be their issue, not yours.

Sydney91

It is very okay!! If someone asks at the wedding, point to the playgrounds and say DH built that and that you are both proud that kids can play on something DH created. Sneaky change of subject to avoid the question. If it offends your more Catholic family, then they need lessons on how to accept your decisions and beliefs.