I was dealing with my very difficult MOH who was running a train wreck through this planning process:
http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_another-weird-messageIn any case, I got a call from my brother who explained this situation to me. He informed me that when she was engaged, her parents did not support her decision to get married at all. They weren't wrong - he's disappeared multiple times, had a child with another woman and is only now settling down with her. This is 7 years and three children later - not my place to judge and I've always been supportive whatever their stage in the relationship.
Anyway, I suppose it went through the family blabber mouth that her father was very excited to be involved in my wedding, and was preparing for his role (blessing at dinner, toast, etc.). In any case, my brother said she was extremely hurt and she has been simmering for a few months. She's been incredibly upset with her father and me and her conceited indifference and hostility are her way of showing that without saying what the problem is.
I am sympathetic, but this is not my fault and I think she needs to talk to her father about this. I'm just sick to death of this attitude and I really don't think I deserve it. Anyways, thanks for letting me get this out (again) but I don't think this is going away soon.