Wedding Woes

Friendship advice

Hello all! Just in need of some friendship advice. I will try to keep this brief:
My friend & I grew up together from pre-school on we were very close friends. Through high school and some of college we at times grew apart some and hung out with other people but still stayed in touch. In college we would go a few months here and there without talking, we were both living an hour away from each other and just focused on other things. In the last year and a half we have gotten close again. Often hanging out about once a month and typically texting or talking on phone once a week.
End of December I had some issues at work that I vented to her & was hoping even asking for her opinion about it all via FB message (which isn't uncommon for us and it was late at night). She responded about a week later saying something like this: "hey I forgot to respond to this msg, someone else messaged me on here & I forgot"
That was it, no offer of a suggestion about how I could handle the issue at work no attempt to make me feel better about it. I was mad at her response & still feel burned.
I never responded and still havn't. It has been almost 3 months since I have heard from her or she has heard from me. I'm upset with her bc I feel like this happens often: where I am typically available to listen to her complain about her lazy BF or her parents etc but she isn't there for me, nor does she go out of her way to come visit me where I live. I always am coming to her.
I want to make up for our friendship and I always thought she would be my bridesmaid in my wedding (which is this September). I don't want to make up for the wedding but a part of me is saddened. I don't have a lot of friends where I live now other than work friends.
What bothers me the most is that she has made NO attempt to contact me. Here again not going out of her way to make a friendship work.
Do I let it go and wait for her to talk to me? Or confront her about everything & how I feel?
Thanks!

Re: Friendship advice

  • The sad truth is that we just grow apart from people and it is what it is.

    This happened with my first wedding. I had a bff from childhood (3-4 years old). We had varying levels of closeness through college but started to reconnect and I had just always seen her as part of my wedding. I called her to tell her I was engaged and she didn't respond. I called gain a month later - no response. I called her 6 months later to say happy birthday...no response. She randomally called me 11 months later and I was dumbfounded. I told her how it hurt me that she didn't contact me that whole time and she said she was caught up in a bad boyfriend situation and that she would've been honored to be part of my wedding. Whatever, too late now for that but I welcomed a rekindled friendship. We started hanging out a lot and we had a great time. She came to my bridal shower...but never RSVP'd to the wedding invite...and hasn't spoken to me since. That was in 2007. I've sent her christmas and birthday cards every year since and no response... I definitely didn't do anything to her, so I don't understand this. But I have accepted that we're just not friends anymore.

    With that said, I'm not friends with most of the people I have been close to throughout my life...but I am really still close to 4 people and I know I'll always be close to them.....and that's very comforting. Move on from this, it's not worth the time investment.
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