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Feel free to ignore this if you don't like baby posts. I think I just need to let this out and vent and be happy all at the same time.

We went for the first ultrasound this past Friday. Of course, we were all yay we get to see the tiny baby!

The u/s tech couldn't find a heartbeat and the fetal pole only measured 6 weeks 1 day. Now, we knew I wasn't 10 weeks, so we waited a couple weeks to go back for the u/s. Which *guess-timated would be closer to 7-8 weeks.

Y'all, it was the worst day evar. I know it would have seemed dramatic and whatever to me a few years ago, or if it wasn't me. But it is so terrible when the tech can't find a HB. Not even a faint flutter. Frown 

Anyway, they basically said we'll run a blood test to check out HCG levels, etc. Come back Monday, if everything progresses, we will see a flutter/HB then.

The nurse promised to call as soon as the blood tests came back on Friday, so we could deal either way over the weekend.

Nurse never called. Then I couldn't get anyone, because they were closed early on Friday. Scared me turned into a pissed me. Someone says they will do something, I expect it. That's just me though.

Ultrasound on Monday showed 6 weeks 0 days (tiny so the measurements are close?) and a faint flutter, but tech was able to detect 82 bpm. Yay! But they were still kinda like, ok that shows progress. We need you to come back in on Wednesday, because they hoped to see a bpm of 100-105.

TMI, but today was a day of OMG get to the restroom to puke NOW kind of days. So, I feel somewhat better about it.

Several people say the office was too doom and gloom and should have left it as "it's just too early". Not "we're a little worried". And that the nurse didn't call back as we were told she would.

IDK. I'm a little frazzled at the moment to make a decision about the dr's office in general.

If you read that, kudos to you. I just needed to whatev.

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Re: *Baby related* Haven't lurked much. We had a few days with some ugly cries going on. (Think all is o

  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    ::hugs:: *tiny squee*

    Sounds like there is still hope.  Even if it's only a glimmer at this point.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sorry you went through that.  I hope things are all okay. 

    And yes, the nurse should have called you back.
  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
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    edited December 2011
    so what did they say your beta was when you went in yesterday?
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  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    Just give it a while so Pete can get all big and strong and you know, seeable. You'll be fine, the baby will be fine, just try not to panic. And always bring a towel. 
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  • awesome-sauceawesome-sauce member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_baby-related-havent-lurked-much-days-ugly-cries-going-think-ok-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:bb518ada-5d80-4072-a825-c2cd00fde545Post:170e7727-220a-412f-8724-02137e1925bc">Re: *Baby related* Haven't lurked much. We had a few days with some ugly cries going on. (Think all is ok now?...)</a>:
    [QUOTE]it is very early. i'm curious, why did they ask you to go in that early anyway? is it because your LMP puts you closer to 8 weeks or so? (just so you know, LMP doesn't have much todo with your ovulation date, so it makes sense their numbers would be different from your estimations.) in any case, again, it IS very early. some people don't get to see a HB until after week 7 or 8, which is why i thought it was weird they asked you to go in so soon. good luck, though. i think the crying is something that has to happen regardless because of hormones.
    Posted by Wifezzilla[/QUOTE]

    My LMP would put me at 10 weeks today. So, I guess it wouldn't be that far off to set the appt up this past Friday. It was a complete guess as to how far, and everyone is right. It was just too early.

    Even knowing that, the wait was really, really hard. And yes, the hormones make a non-cryer, cry often!

    Thanks for letting me get it out. Whew.
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  • awesome-sauceawesome-sauce member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_baby-related-havent-lurked-much-days-ugly-cries-going-think-ok-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:bb518ada-5d80-4072-a825-c2cd00fde545Post:980ba04c-73e7-4a9a-a316-67b6923ef3a5">Re: *Baby related* Haven't lurked much. We had a few days with some ugly cries going on. (Think all is ok now...)</a>:
    [QUOTE]so what did they say your beta was when you went in yesterday?
    Posted by L&R70707[/QUOTE]

    L&R, the numbers were over 20k. Which is good. That info would have helped before we were upset (and hormonal) about it. And it amplified it, because the office never called me back.

    The concern was that LMP was 10 weeks, which can often be a couple weeks off. It's 4 weeks off.
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    edited December 2011

    I'm sorry for the stress
    (FWIW, at 8 weeksish, they couldn't find a HB w/ me either)

    We're pulling for good betas for ya,

  • jojobrnjojobrn member
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    edited December 2011
    Often times, the office staff are at the mercy of the Lab. If they haven't sent results, the office has nothing to call about. Also unfortunately, most of the time, they have so many people to call with results they can't call all the people waiting to tell the to keep waiting.

    If you consider office hours 5 days a week, 8 hours a day with 15-20 minute long appointments on average, that's a lot of women to call if you have no results to discuss.
  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ok, I went back and looked for your BFP post...it was Mar. 31st and all tests prior were negative...probably making you 4 weeks then...and almost 6 weeks now.
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  • awesome-sauceawesome-sauce member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_baby-related-havent-lurked-much-days-ugly-cries-going-think-ok-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:bb518ada-5d80-4072-a825-c2cd00fde545Post:ee6404c3-1bed-4b1d-9cd4-2dcc3070ce71">Re: *Baby related* Haven't lurked much. We had a few days with some ugly cries going on. (Think all is ok now...)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Often times, the office staff are at the mercy of the Lab. If they haven't sent results, the office has nothing to call about. Also unfortunately, most of the time, they have so many people to call with results they can't call all the people waiting to tell the to keep waiting. If you consider office hours 5 days a week, 8 hours a day with 15-20 minute long appointments on average, that's a lot of women to call if you have no results to discuss.
    Posted by jojobrn[/QUOTE]

    Oh, yes, i'm sure. I work 7-5 at my office now. And some days are hectic, even with all the hours to get it done.

    But when I say, "I promise I will call you today so that (hopefully) you don't have to worry over the weekend." Then when we are asked for both cell numbers and she writes all the info down with "STAT" across the top and says, "This is so they can rush it back to me so I can call you today."

    I call someone back. It was clear what the plan was. I just expect people to do what they say, no matter what it is. I guess I put too much faith in someone is all it boils down to..

    If she said, "IF they get it back to me in time, i'll try to call you. See you Monday." I wouldn't expect a call.

    We're worrying for nothing..
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  • jojobrnjojobrn member
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    edited December 2011
    Ok, I get that. You were worried, I understand. But to be honest, you are being dramatic. You barely, barely got your BFP. You had appropirate beta levels before the ultrasound. But to be fair, you knew you were not anywhere near 10 weeks. You cannot expect the office to pull a miracle out of their @ss and give you an instant answer as to whther or not this is a viable pregnancy. Because guess what, they didn't know for sure.

    Would it have been nice to get a call saying they didn't have ther results? Yes. But in all my expireince with this, we often have women back in 2 weeks for a repeat ultrasound. We may not draw a repeat beta. If the pregnancy is viable, the fetal pole will become apparent and a heartbeat visable. You got something more than most women might at this point, take that as the blessing it is.

  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sure it's fine. I'm just a little further along than you, and they JUST saw a heartbeat today. It was tough to get it nailed down because of movment.

    I'm sure you'll get it. Try to relax and not stress too mcuh.
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  • awesome-sauceawesome-sauce member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_baby-related-havent-lurked-much-days-ugly-cries-going-think-ok-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:bb518ada-5d80-4072-a825-c2cd00fde545Post:084956e2-259a-4b65-9c5d-2b85d3251d65">Re: *Baby related* Haven't lurked much. We had a few days with some ugly cries going on. (Think all is ok now...)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ok, I get that. You were worried, I understand. But to be honest, you are being dramatic. You barely, barely got your BFP. You had appropirate beta levels before the ultrasound. But to be fair, you knew you were not anywhere near 10 weeks. You cannot expect the office to pull a miracle out of their @ss and give you an instant answer as to whther or not this is a viable pregnancy. Because guess what, they didn't know for sure. Would it have been nice to get a call saying they didn't have ther results? Yes. But in all my expireince with this, we often have women back in 2 weeks for a repeat ultrasound. We may not draw a repeat beta. If the pregnancy is viable, the fetal pole will become apparent and a heartbeat visable. You got something more than most women might at this point, take that as the blessing it is.
    Posted by jojobrn[/QUOTE]

    Of course. Understood. I am very happy that it's happening, and that I at least have a chance.

    I would think others would wonder what was wrong with me if I<em> didn't</em> give 2 ish about it.

    As for the repeat, I had the one on Friday, another on Monday, and now they are having me come again tomorrow. I wouldn't think they would do that often.

    And yes, it's very early. I have signs of good and not bad. So, again, we're probably worrying over nothing. But I care about this baby and only want it to be healthy. That's all.
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