Have to VENT to someone that is not family or friends!!!!

futuremrsbecerra

So I have to get this off my chest because I can't hold it in any longer!!!! ( Sorry in advance) .
So, this past weekend I had my first bridal shower. Barely anyone showed up on my side and I felt really embarrassed. I don't want alot of people there just for the presents but i wanted people there that would be truely excited for me ( the engagement has been a long awaited thing). Then, noone even sat next to me when everyone was eating so i was sitting alone with only a 6 and 7 year old- i was pretty much at the "kids table"  ( which sucked). So then we started to play games and we played the traditional toilet paper bride game and it was me, my mom and my fiance's mom who was the "brides". No one came to wrap me. Everyone went straight to the 2 moms.I felt really invisible and stupid for just standing there waiting for someone to come to me. I don't need everyone to give me all their attention just notice that this shower is to celebrate a couple getting married. And then after all the games, cake, presents my fiance's aunt ( who is really around our age) came up to me and said" so can we leave now? REALLY? Made me feel great inside!!
So anyways after all the shower fiasco, the next day after church ( my fiance and i always go with my entire family including my older sister), we were at breakfast and my sister told me that she went over to my oldest sister's house (who "helped' with the shower also), and all they did over there was bash my shower and her  husband just wanted to know all our gifts that we got so he could compare. They also ( from the moment we got engaged)  have been comparing their wedding to ours. Note: they got married really young and my dad told them that if they waited they could get alot more of what they wanted for their wedding bc of financial reasons. And i have paid for 98% of my wedding so far and they keep saying that its no fair that we are getting all this nice stuff and decorations bc dad would never pay for all that at their wedding. I haven't told them its bc i have been the one paying for everything not my dad because it won't matter to them. they won't believe it.
My whole point is that i can't even enjoy this time in my life because i feel like noone is excited for me as i was when they were engaged or married. I just want to feel like i have support from my own familyand friends. All last week I was so excited for the shower bc i have always been the one who hosted everyone else's shower and this time it was my turn. Then when it came, i was so depressed ( for the rest of the weekend). Even going through the gifts afterwards, I was not happy. My fiance didn't understand anything i was trying to say- he's a typical guy . I just want to be able to be soo happy  at this time of my life just like everyone else. Can anyone give me some advice to all this drama and help figure out a way to ignore all of this. I only have 4 months lieft of being engaged and i just want to enjoy it as much as possible.
PS: THANK YOU GUYS FOR LETTING ME VENT!!!! 

ReturnOfKuus

Wow.  Your family is a bunch of assh*les.

hearthemelody

Out of curiosity, who hosted your bridal shower?

futuremrsbecerra

My matron of honor, her mom and my 2 sisters.

zitiqueen

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[QUOTE]So I have to get this off my chest because I can't hold it in any longer!!!! ( Sorry in advance) . So, this past weekend I had my first bridal shower. Barely anyone showed up on my side and I felt really embarrassed. I don't want alot of people there just for the presents but i wanted people there that would be truely excited for me ( the engagement has been a long awaited thing). Then, noone even sat next to me when everyone was eating so i was sitting alone with only a 6 and 7 year old- i was pretty much at the "kids table"  ( which sucked). So then we started to play games and we played the traditional toilet paper bride game and it was me, my mom and my fiance's mom who was the "brides". No one came to wrap me. Everyone went straight to the 2 moms.I felt really invisible and stupid for just standing there waiting for someone to come to me. I don't need everyone to give me all their attention just notice that this shower is to celebrate a couple getting married. And then after all the games, cake, presents my fiance's aunt ( who is really around our age) came up to me and said" so can we leave now? REALLY? Made me feel great inside!!<strong> So anyways after all the shower fiasco, the next day after church ( my fiance and i always go with my entire family including my older sister), we were at breakfast and my sister told me that she went over to my oldest sister's house (who "helped' with the shower also), and all they did over there was bash my shower and her  husband just wanted to know all our gifts that we got so he could compare.</strong> They also ( from the moment we got engaged)  have been comparing their wedding to ours. Note: they got married really young and my dad told them that if they waited they could get alot more of what they wanted for their wedding bc of financial reasons. And i have paid for 98% of my wedding so far and they keep saying that its no fair that we are getting all this nice stuff and decorations bc dad would never pay for all that at their wedding. I haven't told them its bc i have been the one paying for everything not my dad because it won't matter to them. they won't believe it. My whole point is that i can't even enjoy this time in my life because i feel like noone is excited for me as i was when they were engaged or married. I just want to feel like i have support from my own familyand friends. All last week I was so excited for the shower bc i have always been the one who hosted everyone else's shower and this time it was my turn. Then when it came, i was so depressed ( for the rest of the weekend). Even going through the gifts afterwards, I was not happy. My fiance didn't understand anything i was trying to say- he's a typical guy . I just want to be able to be soo happy  at this time of my life just like everyone else. Can anyone give me some advice to all this drama and help figure out a way to ignore all of this. I only have 4 months lieft of being engaged and i just want to enjoy it as much as possible. PS: THANK YOU GUYS FOR LETTING ME VENT!!!!  :)
Posted by futuremrsbecerra[/QUOTE]

Both your sisters are jerks -- the one who bashed you and the one who couldn't wait to tell you about her bashing you.

mejai1

What's going on with your friends? Families (sisters and such) have this kind of drama, but where was your matron of honor (or is she family too?)? 

futuremrsbecerra

My matron of honor is my best friend and she kind of is oblivious to everything. She also has alot on her plate right now ( 8 months pregnant). I also didn't want to bring it up to her about the shower bc she pretty much was the main hostess and i don't want to offend her. And none of my friends showed up to my shower except for one which is a bridesmaid.

mejai1

It's kind of you not to bring it up to your matron of honor. It must be hard for her to be so far along in her pregnancy and to be pretty much alone in helping you out -- as you're stressed too for all the work you're doing! She might want to vent herself! 

What happened to your friends? Did they even say why they didn't show up? Maybe you gals can do a luncheon or something. Nothing big but just invite them to celebrate with you beforehand. That might bring a smile to your soul  

danielle807

I haven't had my bridal shower yet, but as for family I feel your pain. My sister is trying to get all the attention so no one can be happy for me, which is really annoying. I finally snapped and basically went off on everyone telling them that for the next 5 months until our wedding I dont want to hear about her and either everyone is going to be happy for us or they aren't going to be a part of it. You need to express yourself and tell your family what you are thinking one by one or in a group, up to you. Otherwise nothing is going to change.

Also, your engagement isnt about anyone else, its jut about you and your fiancee. Enjoy it together and don't worry about what anyone else thinks, does or says.