Wedding Woes

Mom issues

My situation is very complicated. I love my mother dearly and she has been my constant. I value her opinion. My parents have been serperated since I was a baby and have not talked to each other in over 20 years. When I was 19 I reconnected with my biological father, he is more like a best friend. I had already promised my step dad that he could walk me down the isle since he raised me and I love him a lot. I was trying to get my mothers opinion on how I should do the father daughter dance, either have one song for both dads or two different songs for each. My mom flipped out and said that if I even think of having my bio dad dance with me she would not go to my weddding, no matter how much money he has contributed to the wedding (as of far it is the sum of about $800). I do not know what to do!!!!! I am irritated that my mother would want to ruin my wedding by trying to dictact what I should do, but worried that if I do what I want she wont go (along with many of my other relative). I have 35 days till my wedding and it is too late to cancle anything and start over because I will owe the other vendors. What is your advice?

Re: Mom issues

  • WzzWzz member
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    i would tell her that as an adult, you are allowed to make your own decisions regarding who you want to participate in your wedding. if she would like to continue to try manipulating you into doing what she wants, then perhaps she would be happier spending your wedding day alone at home. her choice.

    as an adult, she made her choice that she will not attend your wedding. so it's up to you to make your choice.

    also, it's aisle.
  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    edited March 2013
    Ditto Wzz. If you don't call her bluff now, she will never stop doing this, including finding ways to be manipulative about any future children you may have if they have to be around each other with them or when you are making holiday plans, etc. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • Your mom needs to understand this is not her day and has nothing to do with her.  I would be hurt if I were you but I would do what I wanted.  

    On that note, I think if you did two different songs each "dad" would feel more apart of your day.
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