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jpbluejayjpbluejay member
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Secretly between my FI and I, I want to elope. My FI thinks we should have a proper wedding for us and for our families. However, we are both very private people, so the idea of eloping is a pretty sweet idea to me. 

Am I crazy?

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  • LarloBlueLarloBlue member
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    edited December 2011
    Not at all. That was our plan at first. FI has been married once before, so he could care less about a wedding. I, on the otherhand, really want a wedding. It's small and very DIY, but I want my one wedding. ;)
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  • theta_bombshelltheta_bombshell
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    edited December 2011
    after all this planning... wish i would have listened. LOL. Eloping is waaay less stressful.
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  • jpbluejayjpbluejay member
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    edited December 2011
    that's exactly what I want to avoid... the stress! I like the idea of low key. Otherwise, we're on a budget, buying things I'm not really sure i want or need, i have a huge family, everyone has opinions on everything  and all I'd like to do is add a "Mrs." to the front of my name :) 

    I realize all the details are part of the fun and memories, but....
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  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    No, you're not crazy - but it's finding a happy place between eloping just the two of you and having the big wedding your FI wants. It's going to be a hard balance.
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    edited December 2011
    I've said this before, but seriously, planning a wedding is only as stressful as you make it.  A lot of women on here did not experience much stress, if any, planning weddings.  If you want to elope, then elope, but don't do it because you think planning a party is automatically going to ruin your life.
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  • CarlySaraCarlySara
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    edited December 2011

    Eloping was our initial plan, then having a reception at a later date.  My mom was having none of that idea.  This wedding is for her...not for us!  My mom has been the biggest stress for me in all of my wedding planning.  She and my father are divorced, don't talk, and are splitting the cost of the wedding.  My father just started a business a few years ago, and really doesn't have the finances to even pay for half of the wedding, but he insists on doing it anyway.  Everytime my mother starts to stress me out, my dad gives me 2 other options...uninvite my mom and he'll gladly pay for the entire wedding, or he'll give FI and me $10K to go elope and do as we please with the money.  Eloping has sounded very tempting...but I know I would get more crap from my mom if I did that, and I know my dad doesn't have the money for that.

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  • richellesmileyrichellesmiley member
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    My parents eloped and are comming up on their 25 year anniversary in a  few months. My FI and I are also considering the same thing. If your family wants to throw a  big celebration let them but if all you want on your special day is you and your husband to be they should respect those wishes.
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