invitation woes

michelle&ron

Okay here goes..... my parents are helping me and my fiance with the wedding, however my fiance's parents are not going to do anything untill after the wedding (with like help with buying a house etc.) Basically, my parents want to have thier names as hosting the wedding with my soon to be in-laws mentioned as the grooms parents.  My fiance is freaking out because he feels that his parents are going to be very upset....what do I do???? I feel like this is a no win situation!

Wonderw1fe

Is it an invitation or a party flyer? How are people going to know who hosted if both sets of parents are on the invitation?

mrsconn23

Would it possible to word it, "Ann Jones and John Smith together with their parents Mr. and Mrs. Jones and Mr. and Mrs. Smith invite you to celebrate their wedding on blah blah date..."  Or something like that?

loveshine1

I had a similar situation. Mine said:

Mr and Mrs. J
invite you to share in the blah blah
of their daughter DK
and JT
son of Mr and Mrs M, etc.

It wasn't a big deal. My parents hosted it. His parents weren't paying, they were mentioned as his parents and that was that. No one freaked out.

nicoleg1982

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[QUOTE]Okay here goes..... my parents are helping me and my fiance with the wedding, however my fiance's parents are not going to do anything untill after the wedding (with like help with buying a house etc.) Basically, my parents want to have thier names as hosting the wedding with my soon to be in-laws mentioned as the grooms parents.  My fiance is freaking out because he feels that his parents are going to be very upset....what do I do???? I feel like this is a no win situation!
Posted by michelle&ron[/QUOTE]

<div>I guess Google offered no suggestions.</div>

michelle&ron

See I actually don't have a problem with that, however my mother has let it be known months ago that she felt it it should be done this way, I can't see her bending.  At the end of the day It's just an invitation, we will know who did what etc. God I hate conflict!

mrsconn23

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[QUOTE]See I actually don't have a problem with that, however my mother has let it be known months ago that she felt it it should be done this way, I can't see her bending.  At the end of the day It's just an invitation, we will know who did what etc. God I hate conflict!
Posted by michelle&ron[/QUOTE]

So she doesn't want your FI's parents on the invitation AT.ALL? 

Because using LS's wording...
Mr and Mrs. J
invite you to share in the blah blah
of their daughter DK
and JT
son of Mr and Mrs M, etc.

...It's pretty clear that your parents are hosting.

michelle&ron

exactly.  my parents would like it as
my parents rquest your pressence...
me
my fiance
son of mr and mrsetc

My fiance thinks it should be

my parents and his parents
our names etc

LnR70707

I went with old-school proper etiquette.  My parents paid for the wedding, only their names appeared on the invitation.  IL's paid for the rehearsal dinner, their names appeared on that invitation.  It was an easy decision and I never even discussed the wording with my DH.