Friends assuming they're in the wedding party

nikkib92487

Hi all!! I'm not officially engaged yet, but I think it's coming this weekend.  I have a friend whom I used to be close with but who is a very negative person and I am not close anymore. She has correctly assumed that my proposal is coming soon, and has been trying to force herself back into her lives.  She has been calling me nonstop with wedding ideas, she has called my fiance to be and recommended ways for him to propose to me (all involving her) and even sent him photos of rings he should buy me.  I do not plan on having her be a bridesmaid, but I know once we are officially engaged she's going to be expecting it. Whats the best way to handle this?  I want as little drama as possible.  Thanks!

MrsMyrtle

Stop talking to her. Both of you.

Melissa603

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_friends-assuming-theyre-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:ce0b5eca-2ab0-478f-bb37-7776d4d295fdPost:331669b7-dd58-4a73-bc42-e6a05627a093">Re: Friends assuming they're in the wedding party</a>:
[QUOTE]Stop talking to her. Both of you.
Posted by MrsMyrtle[/QUOTE]

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WTDuck?

Just don't bring it up.

hmonkey

so your friend theoretically thinks she's a bridesmaid in a wedding that isn't happening due to a non-existent engagement?  maybe both you and your friend can be stablehands for my herd of unicorns.

ichellemay1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_friends-assuming-theyre-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:ce0b5eca-2ab0-478f-bb37-7776d4d295fdPost:75128f43-9cf2-4d8c-898e-5af5cebe040b">Re: Friends assuming they're in the wedding party</a>:
[QUOTE]so your friend theoretically thinks she's a bridesmaid in a wedding that isn't happening due to a non-existent engagement?  maybe both you and your friend can be stablehands for my herd of unicorns.
Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]

LOL!  Seriously, though, I agree with PP - just don't bring it up with her.

MinM

You don't even have a problem yet. Shesh...If you need some real problems, I got a few I could unload onto you.

AbbeyS2011

Cross that bridge when you get there - simple as that. 

vllbabe688

Deal with it when you get to that point...  But from personal experience I would recommend avoiding any and all wedding/engagement-related conversation.