:: sophie.n.merlin ::

hmonkey

am i reading all of your giant sigs correctly?  are you ttc and planning to get married at the same time?  why?

also, do you know there's a chance you could get the timing wrong/get no so lucky and end up with your wedding on your due date?

what's your story?

mrsconn23

Also, your sig says something about being "10 years in the making"...You're 25 and he's 32...So you were dating him or whatever when you were 15 and he was 22?

6fsn

She started posting this weekend.  This might help.

link

If that doesn't work check page two.

MrsMyrtle

PLEASE.SEE.THE.BIO.

LnR70707

I noticed that too, but I think her siggy said ICSI, which is a type of in vitro...so the timing part will be exact.  I can't imagine going through that kind of emotional and physical hell while planning a wedding though.

sophie.n.merlin

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[QUOTE]am i reading all of your giant sigs correctly?  are you ttc and planning to get married at the same time?  why? also, do you know there's a chance you could get the timing wrong/get no so lucky and end up with your wedding on your due date? what's your story?
Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]

lol Okay, FI and I have been friends for 11 years, we didn't get together until last January.  That's another story, but yeah, I think that's in the bio :)

TTC, yes, but it won't happen naturally so really all that means is we're having a lot of sex.  I should take off the ticker because we're going for ICSI and, realistically speaking, we'll likely be pregnant next month.  We've been trying since last summer.  It sounds rushed, I know, but please don't judge because FI and I have talked everything out.  There's a lot of medical stuff involved and it's the right time for us.

If you have other questions, let me know ;) I'm not shady, FI's not shady, we're very normal people...just trying to live a normal life by taking the scenic route, if you will :)

mrsconn23

Four proposals? I don't get it.   And no, I didn't read thru all that mess.

NOLABridesmaid

What's the rush if his soldiers are already frozen?

hmonkey

so if you're pregnant next month, you'll be one month post pregnancy at your wedding?  okay.

and what's with the whole "we want to have a kid because our friends are flying to belgium for the wedding?"  so you're making their trip a twofer? that's ... considerate, i guess.

LnR70707

ok...the proposal story is ridiculous.

MrsMyrtle

She wants to have a wedding/baby-viewing party, NOLA. 

Also, you two have been "together" for 10 years, but you've only been divorced for six? How does that work, exactly?

sophie.n.merlin

FI has his own timeline.  For life.  I'm trying to keep this private out of respect for him.

And yes, four proposals.  We couldn't get enough of the fun and happiness the first, second, or third time

Cant_wait!

Sophie-I think one of the dates in your bio is wrong. On your fourth proposal it says it was in April 09, but you'd been living together for a year, so it should be April 10, right?

AuntFlo

And why did you need a diamond?  Why wasn't a ruby ring enough?

Mrs.Thistletwat

I'm confused that if you've been living in Belgium for over a year now why language is still difficult. You're fully emerged in the culture and language.

hmonkey

did he have a new ring at each proposal?  again, are you mr. t?

baconsmom

Oh, no, I'm fcking done at the first line of the bio. 

Traditionally, the proposal is the most magical moment, signifying the beginning of a beautiful, untouched path toward matrimony and lifelong happiness. 

...Yeah, no. 

MrsMyrtle

Also, please clarify this:

"Traditionally, the proposal is the most magical moment, signifying the beginning of a beautiful, untouched path toward matrimony and lifelong happiness."

sophie.n.merlin

Okay, slow down

FI and I met on the internet -- AS FRIENDS -- 11 years ago.  We chatted forever and ever and always had good conversation.  I got married when I was 19, divorced at 21.  He got married during that time as well.  He had cancer twice.  He got divorced.  We lost touch for two years and he found me online again in September 2008.  We picked up where we left off.  I was at university in AZ, he was in Belgium.  I suggested that we get together for a cup of coffee, he agreed.

 I flew to Brussels in January 2009, we met for the very first time in real.  He proposed for the first time, I said yes.  We flew back and forth visiting each other until May 2009 when I graduated.  I moved here at the end of May 2009 and have been living here ever since.

That's the series of events.

Regarding the other post, yeah, that was a messy train of thought and I confused what I was saying.  No, I don't want a baby-viewing party I meant that we're waiting a year for the wedding so that family/friends can save up for that.

Whew.

AuntFlo

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[QUOTE]Also, please clarify this: " Traditionally, the proposal is the most magical moment, signifying the beginning of a beautiful, untouched path toward matrimony and lifelong happiness."
Posted by MrsMyrtle[/QUOTE]

It's certainly not an untouched path if she's already been married and divorced.

More questions:
Who were the guys at the 3rd proposal?
Why post your private business all over the place (yes TTC is private business) but then clam up about why you're rushing into having a baby?

baconsmom

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[QUOTE]  I was at university in AZ, 
Posted by sophie.n.merlin[/QUOTE]

<div>Ah, I see. Thanks, all questions answered. </div>

sophie.n.merlin

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[QUOTE]Also, please clarify this: " Traditionally, the proposal is the most magical moment, signifying the beginning of a beautiful, untouched path toward matrimony and lifelong happiness."
Posted by MrsMyrtle[/QUOTE]

Beautiful, untouched path = clean, new, not walked upon, 'path' less traveled if you will.

Re: language.  I speak enough French and Dutch to get by.  I work with primarily Dutch-speaking people.  I have more people speaking English to me than not.  When I posted that a lot of people don't speak English, I mean that we live in a very Flemish village and the clergy are required by law to only speak Flemish.  Anyway, the language thing isn't a big deal, it's just an obstacle.

And I'm a sappy romantic.  So is FI.  Thus the four proposals.  The first time was with my ruby ring, second time was via webcam with my diamond, third time was in person with same diamond, fourth time was with same diamond after being taken to jeweler for cleaning.

Butter Cookie

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[QUOTE]Okay, slow down :) FI and I met on the internet -- AS FRIENDS -- 11 years ago.  We chatted forever and ever and always had good conversation.  I got married when I was 19, divorced at 21.  He got married during that time as well.  He had cancer twice.  He got divorced.  We lost touch for two years and he found me online again in September 2008.  We picked up where we left off.  I was at university in AZ, he was in Belgium.  I suggested that we get together for a cup of coffee, he agreed.  I flew to Brussels in January 2009, we met for the very first time in real.  He proposed for the first time, I said yes.  We flew back and forth visiting each other until May 2009 when I graduated.  I moved here at the end of May 2009 and have been living here ever since. That's the series of events. Regarding the other post, yeah, that was a messy train of thought and I confused what I was saying.  No, I don't want a baby-viewing party ;) I meant that we're waiting a year for the wedding so that family/friends can save up for that. Whew.
Posted by sophie.n.merlin[/QUOTE]

Your story sounds a lot like mine. Married at 19, divorced at 21, friend on the internet for years, lost touch, reconnected.

Except mine, who had been such a good friend for many years, reconnected long enough to ask me to show him pictures of me naked. :(


By the way, did you grow up in the states? I don't believe I've ever heard anyone in the states say, "I was at university" rather than "I was at/in college" or "I was at Cupcake University"

6fsn

I'm going back to my original thought that this is all shady.  You contradict yourself in the other thread.  You have oodles of proposals and talk about HIS timeline. 

MinM

YOU WENT TO EUROPE TO MEET SOMEONE FOR THE FIRST TIME!?!?

MrsMyrtle

What I don't understand is you came home from Belgium, and he proposed with a diamond over Skype like a week and a half later. He couldn't have done it while you were there? Did you check to make sure the diamond's real?

sophie.n.merlin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: :: sophie.n.merlin :: : It's certainly not an untouched path if she's already been married and divorced. More questions: Who were the guys at the 3rd proposal? Why post your private business all over the place (yes TTC is private business) but then clam up about why you're rushing into having a baby?
Posted by AuntFlo[/QUOTE]

The guys at the third proposal were walking towards a club for a bachelor party.  One of them was the groom-to-be.  FI stopped them while he was outside and told the quick version of our story, asked them to come in with him.

I don't mind talking about my reasons, questions, feelings, etc.  When it involves the private life of my FI, then it's not my business to tell all.  Personal feeling.

Butter Cookie

Min I had a friend from Germany come to meet me for the first time, and he stayed with us.

Of course, we were just friends. He stayed in the loft, I in my bedroom, and there was no hanky panky going on, just a lot of helping each other with the language we spoke naturally and his wonderment over the prices of everything in the US.

sophie.n.merlin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: :: sophie.n.merlin :: : Your story sounds a lot like mine. Married at 19, divorced at 21, friend on the internet for years, lost touch, reconnected. Except mine, who had been such a good friend for many years, reconnected long enough to ask me to show him pictures of me naked. :( By the way, did you grow up in the states? I don't believe I've ever heard anyone in the states say, "I was at university" rather than "I was at/in college" or "I was at Cupcake University"
Posted by Butter Cookie[/QUOTE]

I did grow up in the States, yes, but I lived in the UK for a year, Japan for two years, and now here.

Yes, I went to Europe to meet him for the first time.  Very glad I did.

hmonkey

this clears up very little, and now i have many, many more questions.

AuntFlo

I agree with 6.  Still sounds shady.

Have you met all of FI's family?  
Have they confirmed his cancer story?
Have you performed a background check on him?
Does he or doesn't he have control of your finances?