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Knottie_22383658Knottie_22383658
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A bridemaid backing out 6 months before the wedding?

First, the reason she cannot be part of our wedding is understandable and legitimate, so this is not about how to handle the friendship.

How do you handle this?  We invited all the other wedding party members 4-5 months ago, and now we are only 6 months away from the wedding...

Can you ask someone else?  No one really comes to mind as a definite, and how do you not make it sound like a backhanded insult?  "Hi, yeah, one of my bridesmaids backed out and I thought of you as a replacement..."

HELP!  Has anyone else ever had to deal with this?  (Really hope not...)
-Upset and Unsure
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  • jstokes5jstokes5
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    I don't think you really need to do anything. Just keep the bridal party the way you have it. It's ok to have an uneven number of people in your bridal party. Or you could ask a sister, sister-in-law, soon to be sister-in-law, etc. Good luck!
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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    You don't do anything. Inviting ppl now makes them feel second best, or like they're only good enough for an emergency situation. Not nice. Even sides don't make your wedding legit, nobody will care about uneven bridal parties.
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  • tawillerstawillers member
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    No, don't ask anyone else, espcially since you can't even think of anyone.  It will be hurtful to the person you ask as well as the bridesmaid who backed out.

    We had uneven numbers, as one of my DH's best men was overseas for our wedding.  We did not replace him, and the thought never crossed our minds.  We had two bridesmaids walk with one groomsman and no one noticed or cared.
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  • MNNEBrideMNNEBride member
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    You don't.

    We also had uneven sides and it worked just fine.

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  • WzzWzz member
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    you don't need to do anything.

    i really want to know what people think bridesmaids are supposed to do when they talk about replacements and even sides.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Carry on as if it didn't happen. It's not like you lost a quarterback in the big game.
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  • WzzWzz member
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    wait, was this the bridesmaid who was supposed to help you pee? you may need to figure something out, then.
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  • Annas2013Annas2013 member
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    Do nothing.  That's what I did when mine got an internship for the month of the wedding three months before.  It's not going to even be an issue.  Uneven sides aren't a big deal at all.  

    It'd be rude to ask someone to fill in her spot kind of like they weren't good enough to be picked the first time.
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  • MuppetFanMuppetFan member
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    I'm pleased to hear someone not complain about the BM backing out.

    Agree with PPs, no big deal, just be down 1.
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  • Golden2001Golden2001 member
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    All, thank you for the feedback!!!
    Funny how we all have to learn this wedding stuff to only (hopefully!) use it once...

    Thanks again!
    -Golden2001
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