God's Sick Sense of Humor

pnkgurl06

okay, so FH is not the first person I fell in love with and he knows that. Well lately we have been overly stressed and fighting all the time. I mean at each others throats over the stupidest things. well lo and behold, the first person I ever loved, walked right back into my life. We were the best of friends before we even got together all those years ago, but like most couples, we split, but we still loved each other. I havent spoken to my first love in 5 years until a month ago. He openly admitted to me that he still loved me and that will not go away. He also told me that he wasnt going to be the cause of FH and I splitting. Now here's the kicker, all my friends keep telling me to dump FH and get back with my first love, because "I seem happier." I keep telling my friends that it is more complicated than that.

Don't get me wrong, I love FH, but there is that part of me that will always love my first love. No matter what. ive tried to get it to go away. 5 years of trying to get it to go away. I feel like slamming my head on the wall at times.

I know that I will marry FH and will be with him, but I don't want to cut my first love out of my life again, he was my best friend and he knows me very well. I love talking to him, it makes me feel whole in the sense. I treat him like I do with any friend that I have.

Sorry, just frustrated with what has been going on.

dragonwagon

I'm not sure if this is MUD or not, but...

You seem to have doubts at this point, and for that reason I would say to hold off on the wedding (whenever it is).  I have been in this exact situation before. It won't be fair to your FI if you marry him with the thought of someone else always lingering in the back of your mind.

Just like it was not fair of me to start planning a life with my ex when I was really wishing it was someone else -- my (now) FI. It hurt to let go of my ex, because I truly loved him and we had some very special years together. But he is long gone from my mind now, with no regrets or "what if?'s". I couldn't shake the thought of my first love, so I took a chance and very abruptly and unexpectedly ended a very lengthy and serious relationship to give it another chance. I know the fairy tale ending doesn't happen for everyone, but  I've never been happier.

NOLABridesmaid

I just want to know what God has to do with all of this HS drama.

hmonkey

zsazsa-stl

Brother husbands!!

Get yourself into counseling and don't marry anyone until you are sure.  Postpone or cancel the wedding if you need to.

baconsmom

I don't want to start any blasphemous rumors....

AuntFlo

Grow up.

That is all.

AuntFlo

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[QUOTE]okay, so FH is not the first person I fell in love with and he knows that. Well lately we have been overly stressed and fighting all the time. I mean at each others throats over the stupidest things. well lo and behold, the first person I ever loved, walked right back into my life. We were the best of friends before we even got together all those years ago, but like most couples, we split, but we still loved each other. I havent spoken to my first love in 5 years until a month ago. He openly admitted to me that he still loved me and that will not go away. He also told me that he wasnt going to be the cause of FH and I splitting. Now here's the kicker, all my friends keep telling me to dump FH and get back with my first love, because "I seem happier." I keep telling my friends that it is more complicated than that. Don't get me wrong, I love FH, but there is that part of me that will always love my first love. No matter what. ive tried to get it to go away. 5 years of trying to get it to go away. I feel like slamming my head on the wall at times. I know that I will marry FH and will be with him, but I don't want to cut my first love out of my life again, he was my best friend and he knows me very well. I love talking to him, it makes me feel whole in the sense. I treat him like I do with any friend that I have. Sorry, just frustrated with what has been going on.
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