If you didnt like your engagement ring...

modelbride87

To the point that it made you cry and feel inferior to other brides/brides-to-be rings, would you tell your fiance or keep it to yourself to avoid hurting his feelings and ego?

Jupiterstar

It's just a ring. It's your relationship with your fiancee that is important.

GBCK

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[QUOTE]To the point that it made you cry and feel inferior to other brides/brides-to-be rings, would you tell your fiance or keep it to yourself to avoid hurting his feelings and ego?
Posted by modelbride87[/QUOTE]

I need to understand how exactly a ring can make you cry.
Or feel inferior.

MeaganR12

What is it about it that you don't like?

mrshellem2012

That sounds way shallow to me... you should feel proud he even bought you a ring and flaunt it because its from your man.

modelbride87

@mrshellem2012... It was just a question. Just trying to make conversation as a newbie here. Didnt know I would get bashed for it. This is a topic that some women face that I've seen on other wedding websites and I was just trying to see how others would react. I will now gladly keep my thoughts to myself. Thank you.

mrshellem2012

Its not a bash its my opinion

MeaganR12

I asked a question. I could have given you advice if you had answered it.

dragonwagon

I promise not to "bash"...just tell us exactly what it is about your ring that you aren't happy with? Do you think it's too small? Not glitzy enough? Give us specifics, hun. Maybe the issue is deeper than ring aesthetics.

modelbride87

@MeaganR12 and @dragonwagon... I was just asking a question based off of what I have seen women post in Q & A's anonymously or openly thru other wedding sites. Some are upset b/c they're FH goes ring shopping with them and STILL picks out the wrong ring. Some get upset b/c its not the right cut. Some complain b/c the ring turns out fake or they get rhinestones on their ring instead of a diamond. There's alot of things that come into play with the question and I was just trying to have an open forum about how women would react if they found themselves in that situation. That was all. I guess you can say that I was TRYING to perform a small case study that didnt go too well LOL.

GBCK

meant in the kindest possible way...

on theknut, the board expecatations are different on each suboard.  So lurking on your local doesn't prep you for lurking on WW.  Or vice-versa.

nattykins

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[QUOTE]To the point that it made you cry and feel inferior to other brides/brides-to-be rings, would you tell your fiance or keep it to yourself to avoid hurting his feelings and ego?
Posted by modelbride87[/QUOTE]

To actually answer your question:

I think I would still wear it because it was something that my FI picked out because he thought I would like it. Mind you, my FI is very tuned into what I like, so I'm not often disappointed (ex - I don't like diamonds, I love rubies, got a ruby engagement ring!) I've yet to look at a diamond engagement ring and feel inferior or jealous.

modelbride87

Thank you for your feedback

SouthernBelleLA

Don't feel bad, I get what you mean. My FI and I had a talk before we got engaged. He had been saving up for a ring and let me know he could pay cash and get a decent ring (it's really pretty by the way, I love it) or he could get a multi-carat "my-ring-is-bigger-than-yours ring" and be paying off the ring well into our marriage. I chose the debt-free route and I don't regret it. HOWEVER, I did  catch a serious case of ring envy this weekend when my friend's younger sister got engaged and her 18-YEAR OLD finace proposed with a 3 CARAT PLATINUM RING. WTF man, how can a kid that's not even graduated high school yet afford that?!

Honestly, I love my fiancee' and my ring, no matter it's size, is a testament to the fact that he loves me back. That's all that matters at the end of the day.

SouthernBelleLA

And I wouldn't bring it up, honestly. It will really hurt his feelings and damage his ego.

modelbride87

@SouthernBelleLA... Thanks so much! I love your response. BTW, I'm from Louisiana originally also. I'm from Bastrop (if you know where that little town is lmao). Its about 20-30 min from Monroe.

SouthernBelleLA

Wow, I'm actually from Monroe area (West Monroe to be specific). Born and raised there.

dragonwagon

Oh okay...I see what you were asking. You're saying you've seen women get pretty upset over a ring, and you were asking to see if this happens often. I would say no. I'm sure many women have slight disappointments, but at the end of the day, most women are more focused on the fact they are engaged than mulling over the ring. My ring is simple, and it's not small or big. Plenty of women have much nicer rings than mine, but I am just enchanted by the idea that my fiance wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I would think/hope most other women would feel the same.

Amynutrition

This may sound terrible but I would not say 'yes' if I did not like the ring. Personally, the ring is very important to me. On the other hand (pun intended) I know women who don't even want a ring (my college roomate wanted something practical like a watch) and that's fine for them.

But to answer your question, I don't understand saying 'yes' to the proposal then complaining you don't like the ring.

dragonwagon

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[QUOTE]<strong>This may sound terrible but I would not say 'yes' if I did not like the ring. </strong>Personally, the ring is very important to me. On the other hand (pun intended) I know women who don't even want a ring (my college roomate wanted something practical like a watch) and that's fine for them. But to answer your question, I don't understand saying 'yes' to the proposal then complaining you don't like the ring.
Posted by Amynutrition[/QUOTE]


Um....what?! As shallow as that sounds, just do the guy a favor and say no anyway. I'd hate to live the rest of my life living up to your materialistic and superficial expectations.

amyderrah

I think that a ring is not about size or matereal worth. It's about showing the person how you feel about them, that you care a lot. Some girls will intepret things differently and I think it is important for the Fi to make sure that the message of "I really care about you" comes across well- kind of an important thing right? That being said, it def shouldn't be about the size or value of the ring. I think for me, it was important to see that some thought went into it. We had talked about it before and he even asked for my help, haha, lucky me, so I showed him some designs that I liked. I love the ring he got! To answer a few of your questions, I would be happy with any ring, any size, it's the man I want! Haha. But if I found out that something was fake and he lied to me knowingly, THAT would be a big problem! As for seeing other girls rings... A lot of the time I don't understand how they could get a ring so big, haha, and I think, "wow, good for you but how in debt is your fi?". And yeah, sometimes it looks really nice! But I respect my Fi for only getting what he could afford and I think the ring is perfect, meaning it fits my personality. I would never tell him if I didn't like the style or size, it's as much his ring and style as it is mine. Ps. Sorry if there's some mistakes in this, typing on my iPhone.