I have a rehearsal dinner moment for you

Heffalump

So we're minding our business, eating our ribeyes, when my now-SIL's mother (who was sitting at a different table than SIL's father despite the fact that they are still married) stands up, without preamble announces "I call her [SIL] my Ferrari:  she went from 0 to 24 [years] in 60 seconds."  And then she sat down again.

Also:  the best man referring to this as BIL's "first marriage" in his toast, and BIL using his toast to talk about the secrets that he and his friends have and will continue to keep.  Like your not-so-secret secret daughter, whom you've hidden from your bride but who your parents visit on a regular basis (and your sister has pictures of)?  Yeah, good luck keeping THAT a secret much longer.

mrsconn23

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[QUOTE]So we're minding our business, eating our ribeyes, when my now-SIL's mother (who was sitting at a different table than SIL's father despite the fact that they are still married) stands up, without preamble announces "I call her [SIL] my Ferrari:  she went from 0 to 24 [years] in 60 seconds."  And then she sat down again. Also:  the best man referring to this as BIL's "first marriage" in his toast, and BIL using his toast to talk about the secrets that he and his friends have and will continue to keep. <strong> Like your not-so-secret secret daughter, whom you've hidden from your bride but who your parents visit on a regular basis (and your sister has pictures of)?  </strong>Yeah, good luck keeping THAT a secret much longer.
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ReturnOfKuus

hmonkey

Wzz

oh my.

NOLABridesmaid

What did the bride say?

zsazsa-stl

I'm confused.  Is there really a daughter that the bride didn't know about?

MNNEBride

tawillers

What?!  They're married and he's hiding a human spawn from her?

Heffalump

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[QUOTE]I'm confused.  Is there really a daughter that the bride didn't know about?
Posted by zsazsa-stl[/QUOTE]
Oh yes.  She's five now.  And yes, his parents visit her and his sister has pictures of her, but he ignores her and has hidden her existence from his now-wife. 

ReturnOfKuus

And no one thought to tell the bride that her husband-to-be is hiding a whole damn kid?

Heffalump

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[QUOTE]And no one thought to tell the bride that her husband-to-be is hiding a whole damn kid?
Posted by ReturnOfKuus[/QUOTE]
Nope.  Everyone seemed pretty untroubled by it.  It was bizarre.  FIL did the same thing, so he doesn't have a lot of room to judge, but even so, he does not exactly seem like his conscience is troubling him.  Boys will be boys, I guess?  It's crazy.

First marriage, indeed.

Heffalump

Oh, and her name is Sayge ("sage").  Naturally.

AuntFlo

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[QUOTE]Oh, and her name is Sayge ("sage").  Naturally.
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The kid or the bride?

Heffalump

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I have a rehearsal dinner moment for you : The kid or the bride?
Posted by AuntFlo[/QUOTE]
The kid. 

zsazsa-stl

The bride went through with the wedding?????

Oh. Hell. No.

ReturnOfKuus

FIL did the same thing?  Whothewhatnow?

DG1

How are you related to these people? Because it sounds like the groom is your brother or your H's brother (though I'm having some trouble following). And the groom is the one with the not-so-secret daughter?

How long have these two been together? (the bride and groom, that is)

Heffalump

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[QUOTE]How are you related to these people? Because it sounds like the groom is your brother or your H's brother (though I'm having some trouble following). And the groom is the one with the not-so-secret daughter? How long have these two been together? (the bride and groom, that is)
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I know, DH's family is complicated.  This is one of his half-brothers.  Not the one whose plan is to half-ass his way through law school into a cushy career doing "something, I dunno, maybe general counsel for Walmart or something."  The other one.  The one who just got married is the one who knocked up some girl and got FIL to cut a check to basically buy him out of paying child support for the next 18 years.  Since then, BIL has not had any contact with his kid, who is now 5.  But FIL and his wife see her, and people talk about her openly--that's how I learned that her name is spelled with the ever-popular superfluous Y. 

So BIL never told now-SIL.  I think they've been together four-ish years, so he didn't impregnate the other girl while he was seeing now-SIL, but he was certainly aware that he had a kid. 

And yes, SIL-who-is-DH's-half-sister was once the kid that FIL never acknowledged or had contact with.  She sought him out in her teens, and they have a relationship of sorts now, but I wouldn't say it's a good one.  Half-sister SIL is getting married in August and told us we were invited but pointedly said that FIL and BIL will NOT be invited.  Nonstop drama.

LnR70707

Wow...how did the bride make it through her wedding day without junkpunching everyone in sight?