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Oh for the love of PETE. Assertiveness lessons fail

I REALLY am trying to teach these 19 YO girls how to be professional when dealing w/ creepy people.
It's imperitive to work here.  Because...we have a lot of high-functioning abnromal people, a lot of people on parole, and some people who are just weird.

I *thought* I was making progress...except for this ONEGIRL who is impossible to convince that nice=/= doormat.

And now we've moved on to creepy guy waiting until I wasn't here yesterday to supervise before groping in such a way that it *could* have been an accident--but it wasn't--creepy guy doesn't accidentally pat your inner thigh.  But I have to convince HER of that before I can get much done.

*sigh*
boss knows.  Boss is seeing if we can pull dirt on creepy guy and get him barred regardless.  And I'm back to lesson 1-keep your posture so you have a large personal space (keep furniture between you and creepy people) and lesson 2-be firm, say no, don't try to let people down nicely--you are to be polite but you are NOT instructed to be nice!

I hate supervising.

Re: Oh for the love of PETE. Assertiveness lessons fail

  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow. Creepy guy needs a junkpunch right out the door.
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    edited December 2011
    He does.  before I knew about this, I lit into him this morning for touching things on my desk.
    (he is not developmentally 'normal'--but I'm not sure of his abnormality)

    But these kids also need to learn to say "no".  Because if I jump in and rescue their asses every time someone is creepy, the creepy people will wait until I"m not around to be creepy.  And if I junkpunch Mr. Creepy out the door then, next semester, we'll just have a whole new crop of creepy people they won't know how to stand up to.

    I'm super-duper-paranoid w/ this being handled well by whomever is subbing at the beginning of Fall semester--when I'll, in theory, be out w/ Beauford.
    (it's hardest at the beginning of each semester as people try to get away w/ new things w/ the new semester)
  • edited December 2011
    I had a guy "accidentally" grab my breast once. Umm...no, these targets are small and no one hits them on "accident."
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    this guy assualted her, and now your boss wants to wait around until there are witnesses for him to do it again?  okay.
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    edited December 2011
    well, problem being, the victim is 'super nice girl' and refuses to say he assaulted her.
    She says "oh, he was being friendly and patting my knee"
    And As long as that's her line?  I can't do SQUAT.
    THe moment she says it was unwanted touching, I can hav his azz escourted off campus never to return.  But she won't.
    Because that's 'not nice'.  ANd she's super nice *beat head on wall*.

    Boss and I are trying to find a workaround to get his azz off campus regardless...but we don't have one yet.


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