Newly engaged - and already alone in the planning?

xcrewgal

I'm recently engaged, and am just starting to plan my wedding.  Thing is, my twin sister and mother seem like they couldn't care less!

I know for most brides, the helicopter families is the big issue.  However for me, it seems like the few times I've started talking about the wedding, my family just gives these blank stares and changes the subject. 

My sister (anticipating the proposal) always said how excited she would be to help plan my wedding with me.  Now I get the sense she hardly wants any part of it.  Her opinion means a lot to me, and I'd love to get her ideas and feedback on some of the ideas I have..

The wedding is still a ways off, and I'm worried I'm going to be planning this whole thing by myself.  My FH is wonderful but he is a man, and can only talk so much about flowers and dresses. 

Really hoped I'd have my mom and sister more involved.  Any one have this same experience?  Am I over-reacting?

mysticl

I'm planning myself.  My FI is fairly involved but he's in the military so he isn't always home.  I don't have any sisters, my mother is 400 miles away, my best friend is planning her own wedding.  And really the only person that needs to help is your FI.  I get he's not into dresses and flowers so use him on the stuff he might be more into.  Take it one step at a time and if you have the money for it consider hiring a planner if it gets to be too much. 

Heffalump

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[QUOTE]I'm recently engaged, and am just starting to plan my wedding.  Thing is, my twin sister and mother seem like they couldn't care less! I know for most brides, the helicopter families is the big issue.  However for me, it seems like the few times I've started talking about the wedding, my family just gives these blank stares and changes the subject.  My sister (anticipating the proposal) always said how excited she would be to help plan my wedding with me.  Now I get the sense she hardly wants any part of it.  Her opinion means a lot to me, and I'd love to get her ideas and feedback on some of the ideas I have.. <strong>The wedding is still a ways off, and I'm worried I'm going to be planning this whole thing by myself. </strong> My FH is wonderful but he is a man, and can only talk so much about flowers and dresses.  <strong>Really hoped I'd have my mom and sister more involved.  </strong>Any one have this same experience?  <strong>Am I over-reacting?
</strong>Posted by xcrewgal[/QUOTE]
Yes, you are overreacting.  You said that "the wedding is still a ways off."  How involved do they need to be at this point?  Opinions are fine, but no one will be as excited as you are, and it's not realistic to expect people to be all asquee about colors and flowers and favors this early in the process--if ever.  This isn't a gender issue.  It is the couple's job to plan the party, not the family's. 

And no, for most brides "helicopter families" are NOT the big issue.  I think you need to adjust your assumptions and expectations.  You'll be much happier.