Two Weeks Out and No One Is Coming!

sojessica

My wedding is in two and a half weeks and only 32 out of 126 guests have accepted. A lot of the guest list are people from out of state, but most said they couldn't wait to come when we sent out our Save The Dates months ago. Now all of a sudden no one has RSVP'd and I had to send a "please RSVP because we need to get final numbers in" email yesterday which prompted a few more "we can't make it" replies.

I have been planning this amazing wedding for 80-100 guests and now I'm just feeling unbelievably sad that family members and friends who said they would come won't be there. I dont even want to look at wedding stuff right now because it makes me feel like crying Has this happened to anyone else? How did you get through it? Do you have any tips on how to make a larger venue feel more intimate? I need all the help I can get. :-(

utegoggles

We invited 250, but only about half RSVPd on time. Don't worry! Most of them assumed I knew they were coming. Don't worry, just call and email after your RSVP deadline.

erollis

We have about 7 rsvps still missing equaling 21 people who are unaccounted for. They have not responded to emails, fb pms, texts, and phone calls. We are a week and a half from our wedding. We had about half of our guests not RSVP. We had to get ahold of them to find out. If they won't return your calls/ messages then assume most/ all are not attending. To help the place seem less empty set up only the number of tables and chairs needed for the guests attending. That way you do not have a bunch of empty chairs. You can also have the tables placed so the dance floor is bigger.

kmmssg

Skip the emails and get on the phone will all of those who haven't sent their RSVP's.  People are horrid about this.  Do not do the email thing - get on the phone.  I only check my personal email every 3 or 4 days.  I hope your wedding is wonderful.

theangelcin

Upgrade!!  Take the money you would have used for their meals and use it for something else.  More flowers, extra decorations, fancier favors, etc.  During my wedding planning we discovered after dinner food! So later in the evening the cateror will be bringing out Chocolate Chip Cookies and Milk (a favorite of my fiance's) and we'll have a hot chocolate bar. AKA: Hot chocolate with mini marshmellows, pepermint sticks, chocolate covered coffee beans, jelly bellies, and malt balls (some stuff to put in the hot chocolate, others to munch with. ^_^)

I know it sucks, but remember that it is their loss!  They are the ones missing the awesome party. ^_^

Raeven79

I feel your pain. Although my planned wedding is about half the size of yours, I've had a lot of people (especially out of towners) hold off on responses and then reply "no" when prompted (why not tell me earlier when I could have invited someone else then?). It is disappointing that we are running low. It's especially upsetting when I had to travel to some of their weddings or baby showers etc.

sojessica

Thanks for the suggestions and sympathy, everyone. I'm finally getting a few more responses, but they had to be followed up twice. Let this be a lesson to me never to slack on RSVPing for anyone again!! :-) As for shifting the money saved to other things - the venue/caterer deal involved us paying upfront and the only thing left to bump up is more food and more bar. Both of which were pretty premium anyway... :-(