wdyt is going on here?

hmonkey

Dear Amy: I have been grieving the death of my life's best friend and soul mate for almost 18 months. We were senior citizens who never married due mostly to financial reasons.

We loved each other very much and our relationship lasted almost 23 years. As a memorial tribute, I bought an Easter lily to be placed in my church on Easter Sunday. The purchase was made through a lady at church, and I wrote his name in the space provided for the memorial. On Easter Sunday, his name was not printed on the memorial profile. Instead it was printed that I had given the lily "To The Glory of God."

I have been very upset, thinking that they would omit his name and not honor my wishes in my own church. Now I am thinking of not going back. I know that this was not done in error, as every other memorial tribute was mentioned by name. I feel so betrayed, as I did not know that people in the church were judging me and my relationship with him.

What should I do?
— Betrayed

DG1

the writer said they didn't marry "mostly for financial reasons." So I ruled out the gay, though I suppose that could have been dismissed as a reason in the last few years, assuming this LW is from the US.

So?

zsazsa-stl

I actually vote "error." 

DG1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wdyt-is-going-on-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:e1886f30-cc71-4902-ad65-a351b27932e3Post:b982b6e5-87d7-4eb5-b073-93d5fe6d1105">Re: wdyt is going on here?</a>:
[QUOTE]I actually vote "error." 
Posted by zsazsa-stl[/QUOTE]

LW said it was not an error.

Come on. Think about the woman at hooka's church who's in a tizzy over her totally-covered boobs. Catty church ladies like that are everywhere. I'm not saying the whole church is necessarily like that, but you know this was all about disapproval.

zsazsa-stl

Just because everyone else's was correct doesn't mean that her's didn't get lost or omitted on accident somehow.  In my experience church newsletters and bulletins are full of errors because the church secretary position doesn't pay anything, offers no room for advancement and they have to be really, really terrible before the friendly church folks can bring themselves to fire someone. 

But I certainly don't rule out the catty/judgy explanation.