Help!

KikiW1234

Not sure what board this belongs to, but here I go.  

I lost touch with a friend years and years ago.  We were friends growing up but even then, she was very clingy and needy.  Not my type.  The friendship just required lots of effort and I grew apart.  We literally went one full year without speaking.  She has always been a little awkward and immature, never had a boyfriend and would monopolize my time by making me commit.  Needless to say, I distanced myself and have met many other friends along the way.

I see her here and there but we definitely are not close.  She is not in my wedding party. Well, my wedding is now 3 months away and I receive a letter from her, pouring her heart out to me.  Saying how hurt she is that she's not in my wedding party and she cannot imagine being in the "audience" at my wedding.  

It was a lot to take in, but now I'm ready to talk to her and pretty much tell her too bad.  Any thoughts?  I don't know why this is making me so anxious because in my opinion, it's all her.  

MNNEBride

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[QUOTE]Not sure what board this belongs to, but here I go.   I lost touch with a friend years and years ago.  We were friends growing up but even then, she was very clingy and needy.  Not my type.  The friendship just required lots of effort and I grew apart.  We literally went one full year without speaking.  <strong><u>She has always been a little awkward and immature, never had a boyfriend and would monopolize my time by making me commit.</u></strong>  Needless to say, I distanced myself and have met many other friends along the way. I see her here and there but we definitely are not close.  She is not in my wedding party. Well, my wedding is now 3 months away and I receive a letter from her, pouring her heart out to me.  Saying how hurt she is that she's not in my wedding party and she cannot imagine being in the "audience" at my wedding.   It was a lot to take in, but now I'm ready to talk to her and pretty much tell her too bad.  Any thoughts?  I don't know why this is making me so anxious because in my opinion, it's all her.  
Posted by KikiW1234[/QUOTE]

I'm not sure what you mean by the underlined sentence.

DG1

 "Sorry you won't be able to make it. We'll miss you."

The end. No need to explain all of that to her.

I do wonder why she's even invited if you aren't friends anymore.

TheDuckis

Don't respond. You're ready for the friendship to be over anyway, so why stir up drama?

KikiW1234

She would just ask what I was doing days in a row until there was a day I was free. But it was border line harrassment!  She would ask me weeks in advance.  It was just childish and we are in our late twenties now, so she should realize it's ok for people not to see each other every single week. 

zsazsa-stl

It sounds like you needed to break up with this parasitic friend a long time ago and she just did you a favor.  Good riddance!