maybe i come from rude stock, but i know my siblings wouldn't have a problem slapping imported cheese out of my hand and handing me a block of Kraft instead.
Dear Amy: When my husband and I first moved in together a couple of years ago, my sister "Tandy" came over one day and asked if she could have a soda. I told her that she is family and does not have to ask — she can help herself to anything.
Now, whenever Tandy comes over she immediately raids the fridge and pantry! She will drink six sodas in a visit and eat an entire bag of chips, leaving none for us.
Once she melted down a brick of expensive, imported cheese to make nachos, which she ended up wasting because she didn't like the flavor of the cheese.
Tandy is eating us out of house and home!
I know I told her she could help herself, but I feel like she is taking advantage of my offer and being unreasonable.
This is especially annoying to my husband. He's a picky eater, and most of what she eats is the food he specifically bought to consume.
Tandy's behavior is causing friction, but I have begged him not to say anything to her.
I have tried dropping every hint imaginable, but Tandy does not pick up on social cues.
I know that I have to be direct, but I do not want to create any drama.
My husband will lose it if I don't nip this in the bud.
How can I handle this?
— Starving Sister
