So you're inviting them to a party, and then they pay for their own meals?

loveshine1

C&P:

Hello Ladies!

Most of my guests are OOT, so I wanted to have a welcome dinner and possibly a day-after brunch so that we can have more time to visit with everyone.  This would also help more of our family members and friends actually meet before the wedding.

We cannot afford to pay for these extra events, so is it ok to invite guests to a "non-hosted" dinner or brunch?  Is that tacky or would you be offended by that?

TIA

*Candi*

Some of H's extended family did this for a kids bday party.

I was audibly W.T.F.

Heffalump

I was truly shocked when I was new to the Knot and saw how many people think this is even an option.  Admittedly, most people know that it is tacky and inappropriate, but I was surprised that more than 2 people in the whole world would be dumb enough to think it might be okay.

Shows what I knew.  I had a lot to learn.

loveshine1

I would be offended by that. WTF?

When there are so many other options, how does this one even come into play?

Butter Cookie

What's next? Bring your own chair, dish, drink, cup, and plate?

awesome-sauce

Ha! BC, I just got a visual of 157 wedding guests in black tie dress carrying their own non-folding chairs. They did not look happy.

Butter Cookie

DAMN IT! I may have to change my invitations then...