My fiance is estranged from his father. he's attempted to have a relationship, however his father is a raging alcoholic. my fiance has given him so many chances and after we had children, we made the decision to cut off all ties with him due to a succession of events that transpired 2 years ago. we also refused to subject our children to spending time around him because of his alcoholism that he has denied help for multiple times.
We're newly engaged and I think the most negative thing that hangs above my head so far and will worry me up until the day is what we'll do if he shows up at the wedding. my fiance has made a decision to invite most of his father's side of the family since they are his family as well. There is a bit of tension there because they all want him to start talking to his father again. This might prove a problem because they are all on speaking terms with his father, and he'll most definitely find out about the wedding and know when it is. we've made requests from these family members before to respect our privacy and not give him our phone number, but they did it anyways which led to more stress and anxiety about him knowing where the event will be. they might also be put off by the fact that we didn't invite him.
I would not put it past him in the least to show up at the wedding. he's done it before; he's purposely gone to certain concerts in our city, knowing we would be there. i don't want to have ANYTHING to do with this man on my wedding day, or any other day of my life, to be honest.
Im thinking of asking a few people to look out for him and ask him to leave, but I wouldn't put it passed him to make a scene. he's done it before. i would also assume he would show up after a few drinks and to be honest with you...... im legitimately scared he's going to be extremely upset with us and will do something over the top.
how would you ladies deal with this situation? it's still over a year before we get married, but im stressed out about this.
