I think everyone in this situation is wrong on some level, except for the baby.
Dear Prudence,
My husband's parents moved across the country to help us with our infant so I could finish my doctorate. They are very adventurous and loving grandparents. We have always gotten along so well my husband jokes that they like me more than they like him. So I am bewildered that now that they are here, I prefer the care provided by our chilled-out baby sitter whom we found on the Internet. My in-laws make such a project out of having “quality time" with our 6-month-old that they constantly keep him on the go: driving on the highway to get to four different parks, going to afternoon classes, and skipping naps. He comes home with a soaking wet cloth diaper and has trouble going to bed at night because he’s so wound up. My in-laws say it’s important to keep a baby engaged, and I admit part of me is jealous that they get to have fun with him while I am doing schoolwork, pumping, and washing diapers. But I want my son to be allowed to nap, I want to know where he is, and I want his diaper to get changed. Is it abhorrently ungrateful that I prefer hired help to my in-laws?