I'm not sure how I didn't stab her in the face. (2nd and last post about this today)

awesome-sauce

A woman I know was being overly dramatic about feeling sick and sleepy yesterday. Right after eating stuff she wasn't used to eating. And it was hot as feck this weekend. No big deal until..

She actually said the following (in dramatic fashion), "Ugh, I feel so sick. I can barely keep my eyes open! Feels just like when I was pregnant. OMG I can't be pregnant right now. I swear i'd so sell you this baby if I was pregnant."

I know people say things sometimes, but dayum that is the worst thing i've ever heard. Is that me being overly sensitive?

*Barbie*

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_im-not-sure-didnt-stab-her-face-2nd-last-post-this-today?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:eaf2e14e-bb0b-466a-a6d9-2fc0964d60e8Post:f057ea32-7ac6-43ad-8a6e-0d16f922e155">I'm not sure how I didn't stab her in the face. (2nd and last post about this today)</a>:
[QUOTE]A woman I know was being overly dramatic about feeling sick and sleepy yesterday. Right after eating stuff she wasn't used to eating. And it was hot as feck this weekend. No big deal until.. She actually said the following (in dramatic fashion), "Ugh, I feel so sick. I can barely keep my eyes open! Feels just like when I was pregnant. OMG I can't be pregnant right now. I swear i'd so sell you this baby if I was pregnant." I know people say things sometimes, but dayum that is the worst thing i've ever heard. <strong>Is that me being overly sensitive?</strong>
Posted by awesome-sauce[/QUOTE]

<div>yes, unless she knows about your m/c and said it intentionally to be mean. </div><div>
</div>

awesome-sauce

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_im-not-sure-didnt-stab-her-face-2nd-last-post-this-today?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:eaf2e14e-bb0b-466a-a6d9-2fc0964d60e8Post:5db93f6c-10ee-440c-9da6-b4614f9ab4b4">Re: I'm not sure how I didn't stab her in the face. (2nd and last post about this today)</a>:
[QUOTE]a little, but completely understandable. did she know you had a miscarriage? sometimes, if someone has not gone through it, they have no idea that a benign comment like that could hurt someone.
Posted by Wifezzilla[/QUOTE]

Yes, she does know and asks regularly how I am doing. (I probably should have added that info sorry.) She has actually asked how people are acting and if people say crazy stuff. That's another reason it irked me.

zsazsa-stl

It's a dumb thing to say. 

But you should take her up on her offer.  We can all chip in and ship it around to various WWers who want babies but don't have them yet.  Major parenting decisions can be made via inter-post polls. 

awesome-sauce

Sorry - I didn't have enough info in the first post that she DOES very much know what happened and how I am feeling. I asked, because I wonder if it was to be mean, but we have a friendly relationship. (Unless I don't know something.)

awesome-sauce

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_im-not-sure-didnt-stab-her-face-2nd-last-post-this-today?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:eaf2e14e-bb0b-466a-a6d9-2fc0964d60e8Post:137598ae-9e36-492e-907b-6702ecb70532">Re: I'm not sure how I didn't stab her in the face. (2nd and last post about this today)</a>:
[QUOTE]awesomesauce, seriously, i am not trying to be mean. but you really should try and post about this on the PL boards. most of the women here are pregnant, and only a fraction of a percentage have even had a miscarriage. you being a non regular will get a LOT more information and support on a board of people who know what you're going through.
Posted by Wifezzilla[/QUOTE]

Ok, disregard then. As the others said you do give good advice on this, and this board is never on topic. I didn't mean anything at all to the pregnant women. This was only about this one person.

Just disregard it I guess.

jojobrn

Some people just don't think before they speak. I doubt she meant to insult you in anyway.

Please do take Wzz's advice.

MinM

Please listen to The Wizz. Please. You were here for a hot second posting about how you wanted a baby soooooo badly, then about two seconds later you were pregnant. Many, many women here have gone a long, LONG time trying and going through a lot before they got pregnant.

Then, it seemed a day later you had a m/c. Frankly, you haven't been around long enough for people to know you well enough to care (not that anyone would wish that on you). Go to the other boards, they will do more for you.

awesome-sauce

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_im-not-sure-didnt-stab-her-face-2nd-last-post-this-today?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:eaf2e14e-bb0b-466a-a6d9-2fc0964d60e8Post:96191cce-4099-43fe-b14b-b2bdcc6ac715">Re: I'm not sure how I didn't stab her in the face. (2nd and last post about this today)</a>:
[QUOTE]Please listen to The Wizz. Please. You were here for a hot second posting about how you wanted a baby soooooo badly, then about two seconds later you were pregnant. Many, many women here have gone a long, LONG time trying and going through a lot before they got pregnant. Then, it seemed a day later you had a m/c. Frankly, you haven't been around long enough for people to know you well enough to care (not that anyone would wish that on you). Go to the other boards, they will do more for you.
Posted by MinM[/QUOTE]

9.5 weeks (knowing for 6 weeks) is enough time to be attached, Min. Not a day (even though I know you were just saying that for short time reference).

I have a friend couple that are trying to adopt right now after trying for 10 years, have family members that it took them a while, so sure 6 months for the first try doesn't seem like much. But we fell in love with our baby, and heard the heartbeat. It's an emotional attachment, which I why I was asking if it was just me being emotional. Most of the women on the m/c board will say omg how terrible!, but this tends to be a board with unbiased opinions.

Like I said, i'll try to take wzz's advice, and feel free to disregard it. (I'm talking/typing in a normal tone, but it's coming off wrong I think.)

jojobrn

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_im-not-sure-didnt-stab-her-face-2nd-last-post-this-today?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:eaf2e14e-bb0b-466a-a6d9-2fc0964d60e8Post:5e8166d7-0bbe-41ad-8584-f5f7600379db">Re: I'm not sure how I didn't stab her in the face. (2nd and last post about this today)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm not sure how I didn't stab her in the face. (2nd and last post about this today) : 9.5 weeks (knowing for 6 weeks) is enough time to be attached, Min. Not a day (even though I know you were just saying that for short time reference). I have a friend couple that are trying to adopt right now after trying for 10 years, have family members that it took them a while, so sure 6 months for the first try doesn't seem like much. But we fell in love with our baby, and heard the heartbeat. It's an emotional attachment, which I why I was asking if it was just me being emotional. Most of the women on the m/c board will say omg how terrible!, but this tends to be a board with unbiased opinions. Like I said, i'll try to take wzz's advice, and feel free to disregard it. (I'm talking/typing in a normal tone, but it's coming off wrong I think.)
Posted by awesome-sauce[/QUOTE]

<div>The times weren't a reference to how long you were pregnant, more in relation to how long you had been posting here. </div>

MinM

Enough time for you to get attached to your baby, yes. I wasn't talking about that.

*Barbie*

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_im-not-sure-didnt-stab-her-face-2nd-last-post-this-today?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:eaf2e14e-bb0b-466a-a6d9-2fc0964d60e8Post:96191cce-4099-43fe-b14b-b2bdcc6ac715">Re: I'm not sure how I didn't stab her in the face. (2nd and last post about this today)</a>:
[QUOTE]Please listen to The Wizz. Please. You were here for a hot second posting about how you wanted a baby soooooo badly, then about two seconds later you were pregnant. Many, many women here have gone a long, LONG time trying and going through a lot before they got pregnant. Then, it seemed a day later you had a m/c. Frankly, you haven't been around long enough for people to know you well enough to care (not that anyone would wish that on you). Go to the other boards, they will do more for you.
Posted by MinM[/QUOTE]
 <div>seconded. </div><div>
</div><div>if you want to stick around here, you need to talk about something other than pregnancy and babies - like Min said, there are some regs on here who have been through hell, but also many who can't relate for one reason or another. the pg ladies or those with kids try to keep the posts to a minimum. yes, these are topics that come up, but is seems like more of your posts were pregnancy or miscarriage related than not. </div>

MrsMyrtle

I think you're explaining it just fine, zilla. 

awesome-sauce

I see your point of view, Wzz. I was referring to the one m/c board specifically. Many posts (Not all) seem bitter, so it brings me back down. That is hard to explain also, same as you are explaining to me your POV. I do respect your view on it. (As much as one can from an internet stranger

And to those women that have "gone through hell" I am truly sorry if I offended you by my posts.

As for Min's timeline, she did say that I was on here a hot second, pregnant 2 seconds later, and a day later miscarried. So that's the only reason why I replied in that manner. Because it is what she said.

You were here for a hot second posting about how you wanted a baby soooooo badly, then about two seconds later you were pregnant. Many, many women here have gone a long, LONG time trying and going through a lot before they got pregnant.
Then, it seemed a day later you had a m/c. Frankly, you haven't been around long enough for people to know you well enough to care (not that anyone would wish that on you). Go to the other boards, they will do more for you.

I'll try to find another board for it then.

awesome-sauce

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_im-not-sure-didnt-stab-her-face-2nd-last-post-this-today?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:eaf2e14e-bb0b-466a-a6d9-2fc0964d60e8Post:40ae4692-fd04-4c68-b4ee-d8ccd74887df">Re: I'm not sure how I didn't stab her in the face. (2nd and last post about this today)</a>:
[QUOTE]at this point i don't understand what i have to explain.  post whatever you want as much as you want on this board, AS, but you're not going to get the responses you'll need.
Posted by Wifezzilla[/QUOTE]

The last response were more to Min, I understood your point Wzz. Which I why I said, 'I'm going to take Wzz's advice on that.' I was responding to someone else. And will try to post stuff Non-PR/BR stuff.

MrsMyrtle

OMG, just drop it already.

jojobrn

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_im-not-sure-didnt-stab-her-face-2nd-last-post-this-today?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:eaf2e14e-bb0b-466a-a6d9-2fc0964d60e8Post:4821e9bf-6f65-4c8d-94e6-4222e0deab91">Re: I'm not sure how I didn't stab her in the face. (2nd and last post about this today)</a>:
[QUOTE]As for Min's timeline, she did say that I was on here a hot second, pregnant 2 seconds later, and a day later miscarried. So that's the only reason why I replied in that manner.<strong> Because it is what she said. </strong>
Posted by awesome-sauce[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>It was an exaggeration. You do understand that, yes? You weren't here all that long before bombarding the board with PR posts. Honestly, that's all i feel i know about you, the status of your uterus.</div><div>
</div><div>I am very sorry for your loss, I didn't even know until your post below, but there has to be more to you then this.

</div>

Cant_wait!

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_im-not-sure-didnt-stab-her-face-2nd-last-post-this-today?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:eaf2e14e-bb0b-466a-a6d9-2fc0964d60e8Post:2b81355b-309f-4ccd-b457-bf25f00955fc">Re: I'm not sure how I didn't stab her in the face. (2nd and last post about this today)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm not sure how I didn't stab her in the face. (2nd and last post about this today) :   seconded.  if you want to stick around here, you need to talk about something other than pregnancy and babies - like Min said, there are some regs on here who have been through hell, but also many who can't relate for one reason or another. <strong>the pg ladies</strong> or those with kids <strong>try to keep the posts to a minimum</strong>. yes, these are topics that come up, but is seems like more of your posts were pregnancy or miscarriage related than not. 
Posted by *Barbie*[/QUOTE]
They do???

awesome-sauce

C_w, I left it alone as it doesn't matter either way what I say about it.

But FTR, it has been 4 weeks today since the miscarriage, and the first 2 posts i've made concerning it, since the post I made about the miscarriage. That's pretty limited i'd say.

I've made some random polls and comments here and there, some points are that I would need to post more things other than just that. I didn't think 2 a month was too much. To which I was corrected.

awesome-sauce

And i'm out, time to drive home.

MrsMyrtle

Ah, yes. I believe there are a couple exceptions to that statement.

nicoleg1982

Not everyone will concur, b/c I'm slightly morebitchy than most, but here's my honest opinion:

AS, what you're not understanding is that we don't care.  If you're having a bad hair day, if you stepped in poop, if you brought the wrong lunch to work, if your radio only plays Spanish talk radio, if your pants button flies off or if you lose your baby. 

And I'll be honest - there are regs here that feel that way about me, I'm sure.  But I'm okay with that.

Min and Jojo were dead on - you've been here a figurative hot second.  Most people don't respond/reply to you b/c we aren't interested.  You crave a baby, you get pregnant and most of us didn't believe that story was real anyways.  And you spam the hell out of the board with PG related bull.  Again, we don't give a damn  b/c we don't know anything about you.  And then you lost your baby.  Sorry, that really sucks.  But I don't give a damn.  You're no different than a stranger I don't know who lost her baby in some space/time warp that I will never encounter in my life.  If a reg lost a baby, I'd feel their pain right along with them.  You?  Not so much.

Like Wzz said - visit another board.  Any board.  Maybe one with some people who give a damn.  Unfortunately you've been here long enough to "get" the tone of the board, yet you still are an awkward little tornado - blowing in with some nonsensical bull and blowing out again without any fanfare.