same dress - mothers

joenamy123010

Mother of the Bride and MOther of the Groom both bought the same dress!!!!!!  One in Navy Blue other in Black.  BOth are ANGRY and REFUSE to buy another.  While I honestly don't care (although I assume they will become the talk of the wedding rather than anything else)  I really just don't want the drama of it all!!!

Suggestions??

Paulo's Menina Bela

Both need to get over it. Don't feed the drama llama. They can either get different dresses or not. Neither should expect the other to do so.

EDIT: You can also laugh it off saying they both have good taste.

Y I Oughta

Tell them that if they can't work it out they will both be wearing the same dress at the wedding. This isn't something you should stress yourself about.

sister2groom

It's not like they'll be in many (if any) photos together. Personally, I never worried about the whole "OMG she's wearing the same dress" kind of thing, because it's kind of bound to happen if you shop at any national chain store (which most of us do). But yeah, stay out of it.

TheDuckis

Their matching dresses will not be the talk of the wedding, trust me.

What exactly are they angry about? Unless one showed the dress to the other and then she promptly purchased the same one, it's not like there was any malicious intent here. Tell them both to let it go.

6fsn

It's there issue, not yours.

VarunaTT

Also, I can straight up tell you that the ONLY dress I ever look at @ at wedding is the brides and the maids.  The rest of the people I only look at if they're inappropriately dressed.  Like in jeans.

Muffin'sMom

As a MOB, I will say that it is not your fight, or your FI's.  Both of you need to say to your mothers that it is up to them to decide how they will deal with the situation and that neither of you will be involved.  Then do that and let them calm down and figure it out.  If you get involved, it becomes your fight not their problem.

SeptemberFall2011

That...is random...Who knew 50 year olds (or older) would fight over matching dresses despite the color differences.

Like they said-tell em to work it out.  I think guests wld find it cute tht they match.

baconsmom

Isn't there some apocryphal story about the mom and step-mom having the same dress, and the stepmom has a fit, so mom says, "Oh, don't worry, I'll buy a new one!" 

And then mom shows up in the same dress at the RD. 

Butter Cookie

My mom doesn't wear dresses, so this wasn't an issue for me.

If it had been I would have told them to grow TF up and deal with it. Clearly they have similar taste, so it MUST be a compliment.

Kristin789

MOB is supposed to pick/buy her dress first, and then talk to MOG about the dress MOB just bought, covering what style it is, how formal it is, what length it is, what color it is.

Then MOG buys a dress, making sure not to buy the exact dress that MOB bought, and making sure to buy a dress similar in style, formality, length, in a complementary color.

So your MOB is actually mad at herself for not communicating to MOG, which would have avoided this situation.  And your MOG is mad at herself, for not calling MOB to see what kind of dress MOB picked before MOG went out and bought a dress.

See link below:
http://wedding.theknot.com/bridal-fashion/bridesmaid-dresses/articles/mother-of-the-bride-attire.aspx