Losing my mind

LFenlason

I'm hoping this is the best place to get advice on this topic. I have been at my job for 7 years. Each year it gets more and more unbearable. I have gotten to the point where I'm ready to cry everyday when I get home and it's really taking a toll on me emotionally and physically. I want to look for something else but I'm nervous. Getting married next year I have a lot of things to pay for. I am fearful that if I start a new job I'll be the "low man on the totem pole"  I won't have the job security I have now. Do I take the risk and most likely end up happier? Or stick it out for at least another year in the job I have now and possibly have a break down??

*Barbie*

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[QUOTE]I'm hoping this is the best place to get advice on this topic. I have been at my job for 7 years. Each year it gets more and more unbearable. I have gotten to the point where I'm ready to cry everyday when I get home and it's really taking a toll on me emotionally and physically. I want to look for something else but I'm nervous. Getting married next year I have a lot of things to pay for. I am fearful that if I start a new job I'll be the "low man on the totem pole"  I won't have the job security I have now. Do I take the risk and most likely end up happier? Or stick it out for at least another year in the job I have now and possibly have a break down??
Posted by LFenlason[/QUOTE]
find a new job now. continue to save until you do. consider scaling back on wedding plans if you don't have money for them *right now* - you never know, you could get fired next week, and wouldn't have the year to save anyways. 

thejucheidea

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[QUOTE]In Response to Losing my mind : find a new job now. continue to save until you do. consider scaling back on wedding plans if you don't have money for them *right now* - you never know, you could get fired next week, and wouldn't have the year to save anyways. 
Posted by *Barbie*[/QUOTE]
This. There's no point in torturing yourself for the sake of a fancy wedding. Cut back some and be happier.

ElleB87

OP, I was in your position until this past April when I had finally had enough.

In my last job I had amazing job security, great pay, stable work hours and a decent amount of vacation time. I also had a boss that would say things like "you know we only hired you because your disability makes us look good" and "you can't be surprised if people don't want to work with you.  Normal people are uncomfortable around the sick and disabled" (for the record I'm not sick, I'm Epileptic, and I'm considered "disabled" because I'm hearing impaired eventhough I could perform my duties better than a lot of my coworkers).

Basically the stress from being belittled and berated everyday took a huge toll on my health.  I started having more seizures and daily migraines.  The minute I handed in my resignation I immediately felt a weight lift off of my shoulders. Friends, family and coworkers told me that I looked so much better (I stood taller, I had more colour in my face, etc...).  It took my about a month and a half to find another job but now I am happier than ever. Like a dog that's been kicked too many time I still catch myself feeling like I did at my old job (ie. being afraid to ask the boss to order more staples or for clarification on something) but everyday life gets a little better.

A wedding can always be postponed, your health can't wait.

Best of luck and come back and let us know what happens