Already at my break down point?

cpharvey

My fiance and I were engaged on Valentine's Day and have planned our wedding for this September.  We plan to help my parents pay for the wedding as my parents are not necessarily in the best financial situation.  We have already booked the church, and now my parents keep insisting that we put the wedding off!?!  They keep saying they want to have money for the wedding (i understand), but this situation has been going on for a while and I don't see it changing anytime soon.  My fiance is to the breaking point of feeling like he made a mistake in even asking because he feels like they just don't want us to get married.  I am emotionaly drained and just needed somewhere to vent it.  Any advice or just anything?


~Stressed bride-to-be~

Butter Cookie

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[QUOTE]My fiance and I were engaged on Valentine's Day and have planned our wedding for this September.  We plan to help my parents pay for the wedding as my parents are not necessarily in the best financial situation.  We have already booked the church, and now my parents keep insisting that we put the wedding off!?!  They keep saying they want to have money for the wedding (i understand), but this situation has been going on for a while and I don't see it changing anytime soon.  My fiance is to the breaking point of feeling like he made a mistake in even asking because he feels like they just don't want us to get married.  I am emotionaly drained and just needed somewhere to vent it.  Any advice or just anything? ~Stressed bride-to-be~
Posted by cpharvey[/QUOTE]

To be honest I would sit down with the fiance and go over our money for the wedding, figure out a plan, then tell my parents "We love you so, so much, and I know you want to be able to financially support this wedding but we're ready to get married, we are financially backing the wedding, and all I want you guys to do is show up and support your daughter. It means more to me than money."

6fsn

Exactly what BC said. 

Figure out your relationship with the FI and what you can afford to do on your own.  Tell your parents to support you emotionally.

ReturnOfKuus

Don't help your parents pay for the wedding.  Pay for it yourself.  You know they don't have the discretionary income to spare right now.

PrettyGirl815

In Response to Already at my break down point?:
[QUOTE My fiance is to the breaking point of feeling like he made a mistake in even asking because he feels like they just don't want us to get married. Posted by cpharvey[/QUOTE]


Based on your comment above, it sounds like there may be more going on here than just a money situation. Is there tension between your parents and your fiance? Do they have an issue with you marrying him?

Regarding the money, I tend to agree with the other posts. I would suggest you sit down with FI and make a budget of what you want and what you can afford and work with that for now. Good luck.

cpharvey

Thanks for all your advice.  In regards to the tension, my parents are over the moon about us getting married, they just feel like we are not "giving them enough time to save money for your dream wedding"