Not-so-sweet Grandmother

kjack1201

My fiance's Grandmother is seemingly trying to get out of coming to our wedding! She says that she has to be at a Church conference the Monday before up north and it's a week long, and that she HAS to be there. First, she tried to ask us to change the date AFTER the STDs had went out. Now she is just plain being rude about not being able to go and saying that we should have checked with her before we set our day.....BUT WE DID. and she had no plans then, but now she absolutely has to go to a church thing. Somehow I think that they would understand. I mean, this conference happens twice a year...our wedding is once in a lifetime! I just don't get her and really want to smack some sense into her.

Matty143

Sounds like she has made her choice & this church thing is more important to her, or is trying to force you to change the date.
I would call her bluff, what Grandma is going to miss her Grandson's wedding?

dinnermint

I hear you on the not so sweet grandma thing. My dads mother is probably not coming to my wedding either. I couldn't care less myself. That reflects poorly on her.

I'd do what the PP said and call her bluff and go forward with the wedding without her if thats what she wants. I'm sorry you all have to deal with this.

bneillWed135887

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[QUOTE]My fiance's Grandmother is seemingly trying to get out of coming to our wedding! She says that she has to be at a Church conference the Monday before up north and it's a week long, and that she HAS to be there. First, she tried to ask us to change the date AFTER the STDs had went out. Now she is just plain being rude about not being able to go and saying that we should have checked with her before we set our day.....BUT WE DID. and she had no plans then, but now she absolutely has to go to a church thing. Somehow I think that they would understand. I mean, this conference happens twice a year...<strong>our wedding is once in a lifetime! I just don't get her and really want to smack some sense into her</strong>.
Posted by kjack1201[/QUOTE]

I think everyone wants to smack sense into someone.

If grandma doesn't come its not the end of the world, continue how your plans are.

baconsmom

She's a bitch. So? Having kids who then have kids doesn't turn people into wonderful, caring nurturers. 

Ignore her and move on.