From FBKnot:
Everyone in DH's dad's side of the family is expecting us to apologize for something that happened at the wedding and I don't think it's as awful/deserving of an apology as they do. I'm just curious what you all think.Here's what happened:We had drink tickets for the reception and he has an aunt and uncle who don't drink so we didn't give them drink tickets (the wife was an alcoholic so it wasn't an assumption that she wouldn't drink and he NEVER drinks to support her; we knew they weren't going to drink and we didn't want people giving them away because we couldn't afford to pay for people to drink twice).Anyway, his uncle came up to us as we were scarfing down food (he hadn't had a full meal since 8 am, me since 11 am and it was after 7pm by this point) before we went to go talk to all the individual tables. A couple people had come up to us to take pictures and stuff and we paused and smiled and said we'd talk to them when we came to their tables and everyone seemed to understand and just went back to their tables. His uncle walked up and pointed his finger at us with a serious look on his face and said "I have a bone to pick with you two." To which I responded, "Please let us eat now, and we'll talk to you about this when we come to your table." and DH agreed.His uncle said (incredibly agitated), "Well, now..." so I said "If you have a problem, can we please talk to you when we come to your table? We are really hungry and want to eat while we can." At that point, his uncle glared at us, said "forget it" and turned and walked away.Apparently he was going to joke with us, but as both DH and I were running on empty stomachs, 3 hours of sleep, and were both tired, we didn't catch any glimpse of humor in his voice and we were genuinely concerned that he was upset and we wanted to deal with it appropriately and not hurry the situation.I understand the expectations of the bride and groom and I know that his uncle had come out of the kindness of his heart, but I don't understand why he did what he did. If he wanted to joke with us, I think he should have made it more obviously a joke and not make us feel like we were being accused of doing something wrong. I felt AWFUL because when we did go to his table and try to talk to him about it, he acted like a 3 year old throwing a temper tantrum. If anything had been wrong, I would have sincerely wanted to fix it.If I'm in the wrong, I'll apologize. I just don't want to have to take all the blame from DH's family if neither he nor I was completely to blame.So, your opinions please. Whose fault? DH's and mine, his, or some mixture of both?-------------------------------------------Side note: These broads go on FOREVER. It's just wall after wall of text up in there. I guess then no one can accuse them of leaving out details, but man.